You can ask a lot of people on who’s their ideal man/woman and they’ll answer almost the same features – looks, intellect, humor and the appeal. However, those things sometimes just serve are answers for that particular moment that the question is being asked. People can be very, very choosy with their dates. Though there are people that accept dates now and then, it’s still not guaranteed that he/she will show to their dates that they enjoy it. You’d rather not go for it if it’ll end like that, right? So the choosy attitude comes up. You being choosy will lead to being extremely cautious, and being extremely cautious leads to having no dates at all. Here are some reasons why you can’t make up your minds and ways to get over that:
Why can’t I make up my mind?
There are a lot of reasons why people sometimes have difficulties with deciding who they would want to date. It could be too much focus with career, or other hobbies, and maybe simply paying no attention to other people at all. Too much focus with these things will make someone go like, “wait, what are the qualities I’m looking for again?” Do not be like this because you will have a harder time in the long run. No one wants to be alone, right? Though there are independent people who think it’s best to be just alone, we can bet that somewhere in the deep corners of their heart – they have a longing.
What to do before the decision
How can you make up your mind with deciding who to date? Sounds easy? It is. Just don’t go for the looks yet. Don’t go for the physical attributes yet. Find out what you really want the person to make you feel like. Do not think of the first impression factors yet. How do you want to be treated while on a date? What makes you laugh? What makes you interested in a person? What catches your interest that could be interesting for your date as well? Answer those questions before you decide anything.
Thinking about what you’re looking for physically
After those factors, it’s now safe for you to go to the looks. Usually, if it’s with looks, people expect a wee bit too much. That what makes them a bit upset even though the date is just starting, so it will just end up in disaster. Expecting too much on something will really make you so upset, so please – no one’s perfect and you will not see all the qualities you’re looking for in a single package. A person can be so good-looking but isn’t really nice to talk to. Someone could be so nice but a lacks a bit on the hygienic side. Look at a person holistically, keeping the idea of appearance on the mental back burner.Always remember, no one’s born perfect. Do not expect that you’ll get to date someone who has absolutely all the qualities you’re looking for. Continue to think like this and you’ll never find a single date. Accept the fact that you can’t get them all in a single package. There will be – always – a single flaw in a person. It’s up to you if you’ll accept it or not.
Comparing two people
If you’ve found a couple people and can’t make up your mind about who you want to be with, try making a list of all the pros and cons that each person has and see which one reigns supreme. If you pick one but strongly regret the decision, then chances are you really want to be with the other person, despite what the list may say. Listen to your heart before you listen to the paper. If you still can’t choose between the two of them, then dump them both. Sure that sucks to hear, but the truth is that if you were meant to be together, there would be a clear cut winner. Move on until you find that person for you.
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