From toes to bondage, there is a fetish out there for everyone, but how do you go about finding yours? Here are a few tips that might help.
Find a partner who’s open to your ideas
Depending on what you have in mind, you may need an open and willing partner, regardless of whether you are married, dating or single. You should be able to openly discuss your wishes with this person. If you are married or in a long-term relationship and have not previously discussed this with your significant other, you should be prepared for their initial shock and unwillingness to participate. In this case, you may want to start out slow to warm them to your newly found adventurous side.
Plan for a fetish adventure
You will also need to do some planning. Don’t get so excited by your new lust for experimentation that you forget which way is up. Stop by your local adult supply store and pick up anything you might need for your new sexual journey. Remember that you don’t have start out full force. Regardless of which fetish you find intriguing, only do what you and your partner are comfortable with. So ease into it and of course, have fun with it.
Practice makes perfect!
Also, sometimes trying new things can be awkward at first. Just because it isn’t comfortable once, doesn’t mean it won’t be comfortable a different time. Trying again at a later time why you are both more relaxed can prove to be even more pleasurable. So, don’t rush; thinking you have to be a full fledge dominatrix the first time you strap on the leather can be a disappointment, when you are unsure of what to do. There is plenty of time for experimenting with which fetishes arouse you the most and at what level are you aroused.
Be willing to experiment with different fetishes
Remember that just because someone else becomes aroused from being spanked or being on camera, doesn’t mean that you will. Try out a few of your ideas until you find the one that “trips your trigger,” then develop that one. Include your partner in this. How do they feel when you are engaging in fantasy role playing? Do they like it when you want them to lick your toes? If you are in a relationship, finding your fetish should be a team sport, involve all the players in the game plan.
Maybe try some fetishes by yourself
Pleasing yourself is also an important factor in fetishes. In fact, there are many fetishes you can do without a partner. The primary aspect to remember in this case should be the arousal and pleasing of you. If whatever fixation you are currently engaging in isn’t getting you the release and satisfaction you had expected, move on to the next on your list. Continue to do this until you find that one fetish that can consistently turn you on and satisfy your needs.Remember, whether it is noses or toes, whatever your obsession, you shouldn’t feel the need to get anyone’s approval. This is something for you (and possibly your partner) to experience. If you don’t want to share it with anyone else, don’t.
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