Flirting is one of the best ways to have casual fun with a person. It's one of those subtle activities that a lot of people do subconsciously, but flirting can actually be somewhat of an art form. Sometimes people flirt too hard or go into a flirting situation expecting to come out with their soul mate. These are quick ways to turn fun into failure, so here are some tips on how to flirt the right way.
Getting someone's attention
You want to start flirting by initiating the person's attention. Show them that you're interested and get them to notice you in return. Start with a quick glance, making a brief second of eye contact with the person. Don't stare for too long or eye them like a piece of meat. Simply pass a glancing smile to them that implies “Hello.” Wait a few seconds and see if they are still looking at you. If you've made a good impression, then the person will try to get your attention as well, but if you didn't catch their eye, then they've probably walked off or moved on.Keep your body language relaxed at all times. You want to seem calm and approachable so that the person you are trying to flirt with doesn't feel intimidated. Be sure to read their body language too to see if they want to flirt back. If they keep turning their back to you or ignoring your glances, then you should probably move on to someone else.
Starting flirtatious conversation
After the physical stage is done, you have to actually talk to the person. Keep things as non-personal as possible when you first start out. Talk about the place you're in or maybe a good show on TV. Don't use the typical weather small talk where you say how crazy it is that you've had so much rain lately. You want to seem like cool person to flirt with, not an 80 year old stuck in a 30 year old’s body.Let the conversation take its course. You will slowly start to work in personal info about yourself. Don't forget to listen the other person though. Most men and women will agree that there's nothing worse in a flirtatious situation than a conceded conversation hog. Even if the person is completely boring, you want them to feel like you are just as interested in them as they are in you. Laugh at their jokes and always smile when you're listening to them speak. You may even want to elaborate on what they say so they know you're listening.
Working up to phyical flirtation
Eventually, you may want to cross the personal space line and make physical contact with the person. Woman can get away with this much sooner than men can because women often feel intimidated when a man touches them too soon. Most men actually like the physical attention. Little touches on the arm during laughter are usually the easiest way to do this, and most people recognize those touches as a clear interest indication.
Ending the flirtation
All you have to then is figure out if you want to pursue the flirtation any further. If you want to ask the other person out, then do so. If you want to call it quits, then make up an excuse and walk away. Don't just leave, but say that you really should get going, or something along those lines. The other person may ask you out, so either give them a fake number, or get their number and never call. This may sound mean, but people do it all the time. Then you’re free to flirt again, and the cycle starts all over.
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