As a woman, nothing is more frustrating than having a sloppy, stammering guy ask for your phone number. Not all women want a “fixer upper”; some of us want the guy that at least appears like he has his stuff together. So, here are a few tips that may make your success rate just a little higher.
Look the part
Appearance is key. Depending on where you are going, you should dress appropriately. Consider this similar to a job interview. Your wholly, ratty jeans and a grungy T-shirt probably won’t cut it. Remember, while you are taking an extra 15 minutes to put a little gel in your hair or shave the stubble off your chin, she spent about an hour fixing her hair and shaving her legs. Also, while you judged her book by its cover and wanted to talk to her based solely on her appearance, she may or may not give you her number based on yours.
Have the right timing to ask for her number
Timing is everything. Be at the right place, at the right time. Whether it’s the grocery store, the library or even your local home improvement store, location is important. Also, make sure that it is not a place where she is going to be too busy to talk to you, i.e. don’t ask your waitress at the local sports grill for her number. She is at work and you will most likely get turned down because she doesn’t have time to make a decision about you. I do not recommend going to a bar or club. Generally speaking, you will not find a girl you could take home to your mom at a bar.
Be the active one on the date
Act. Don’t make her come to you. Go to her. If you make the first move, you appear confident, which is very attractive. Say hello. Ask how she is doing. The response to this question will let you know whether to go forward or walk away. If she is abrupt with the answers, she is probably not interested and you should move along to someone who is.
Talk to her before you ask
Have a conversation. If you walk up to a woman and only ask for her number, 9 out of 10 times you will be rejected. Women do not want to feel like they are just a phone number in your Contacts List. However, at the same time you don’t have to go into a 3-hour epic conversation. Also, there are 3 basic tidbits of information you may want to may want to know before proceeding with the main question. First, her age. No, you don’t need to see her driver’s license or birth certificate, just detour the conversation towards the topic and then politely ask. Second, her relationship status. More than likely, if she does have a boyfriend or husband, you will know within the first minute of talking to her. Last, interest level. Just because she has entertained talking to you doesn’t mean she is interested, but usually there will be signs. Little comments or gestures that let you know she wants to talk to you longer.
The big question…
Ask. By this point, you have already spoken with her for a while and she has shown signs of interest. It is probably a safe bet to ask now. If all has gone well, she should have enough of a trust level with you to actually give you her number. However, if for some reason she says ‘No’, accept the rejection in stride. There could be any of a number of reasons. Also, do not get visibly upset over this. She will take that as a red flag and you could have possibly blown it.Now, get going. Your dream girl is waiting.
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