He probably feels it. You feel it. The both of you may feel it, but he just can’t seem to build up his courage and let the words out – he may like you already, or not. You have been going on for some time now, and spent time together with his friends, your friends and have gone to places. Still, there’s this thin barrier that separates the two of you. There are instances where you look at him like he’s going to say something, but he looks away. He loses his words and starts to divert it. You know he likes you, yet he doesn’t realize it. But how can you turn the tables and let him make that big move? Here are some tips to help you along the way:
Why doesn’t he like me?
There can be a lot of reasons why some of the guys don’t realize that they like you yet, or have them the courage to admit that they do. For example, one guy may like someone already, but is still on a denial stage – but why? There can be a lot of possible causes. Fear of rejection? Fear of losing the proper words to say when he’s in front of you? Or he just doesn’t realize it yet. That’s where you get to come in though. Show him that he won’t be rejected, or make him realize that you are the best thing for him.
Subtle ways to get him to admit he likes you
Letting him realize that does not really involve you directly. Instead, you show off non-verbal cues or hints that somewhat say, “Do you want to say something?” or “do you want to spend more time with me?” It’s a given fact that men should always do the first move, and be the aggressive ones. So most of the time, the women are left to just give out subtle hints or sometimes – hold their peace, and miss out the opportunity. A lot of “potential” relationships didn’t work because of the lack of courage from both sides. What’s getting common now is the aggressiveness of the females. As of now, females are also upfront, can ask straightforward questions, and be slightly open to easy conversations.
Being interested in him to get him interested in you
A good way to drive him to realization is to show him that you are interested on things about him. Let him see that you enjoy his company, and let him feel that you’re showing concern on how he is doing. Spending time with a person is a sign of trust, and it implies that you can give some of your time to him/her. Having someone to spend their time with you isn’t something you can earn every day. There’s this small padlock in men’s egos that has to be opened for them to be vulnerable of liking women. Yes, there can be males just playing around – but there will be someone that will make them pause and think, “She is so beautiful,” or “I never noticed that I’m starting to miss her already.” When that situation comes, he will gradually come to a realization that he’s starting to think of you, though it may not be obvious to him – since men are usually keeping their feelings to themselves. But when you start to let him feel that you’re always there for him – get ready for his realization.
Last choice…
Worse comes to worse, just tell him how you feel. Say, “Hey, I like you! What gives?” Ask him how he feels. You may have to be blunt, but sometimes that’s the only way to get through to a guy. If your man is stubborn, just be direct. You may put him on the spot, but at least he’ll think about the situation.
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