Whether you are looking to reignite a lost spark or just simply like to try new things, bondage can be fun sexual activity that may actually bring you and your partner closer together. So, if you are looking to get into bondage, here are the basic concepts you will need.
Respect your partner’s wishes
Although bondage and roll playing is fun, this is only in the right context. You must respect your partner and his/her wishes, desires, and (most importantly) boundaries. They must also respect yours. Unlike the common consensus, bondage is not simple about tying your partner up and beating on him/her (although there are those days, just kidding). Bondage is about experiencing sexual gratification through respect for each other.
Establish the submissive and dominant role players
Submissive and dominant are the two roles associated with bondage. This is the fun part. Where your partner may be more dominant in the relationship, in your bondage experiences, you may be the dominant role. Role reversal is often great for spicing up a relationship. This may also cause your partner to see you in a whole new light sexually.
Set some boundaries for the bondage
No sexual experience should be painful. Also, the point of bondage is not pain, but rather control. You and your partner should talk about how much control you want to have or want to give up respectively. The two of you should work together to set your boundaries up front. Remember that this is a fun role-playing sexual occurrence. This should not cause any permanent scarring or physical pain.
Find some good bondage toys and tools
The best part of any role playing scenario is the toys. Bondage toys can be anything from hand cuffs and blindfolds to leather and whips. For those couples that are just starting out, it is recommended that you start out slow. Only do what you and your partner are comfortable with. There are also many “beginner” bondage kits on the market to get you started that usually include ankle and wrist cuffs as well as a blindfold.
Trust during a bondage session
Remember that trusting your partner is vital to enjoying the sexual session. You must trust not only that they will not cross the boundaries that the two of you have set, but also that they will respect your wants as well as your body. Although everyone enjoys a good spanking, no one wants to leave any marks that will require stitches. Also, remember that you partner is entrusting you for their sexual pleasure.
Final thoughts on bondage
Overall, when done properly, bondage can be a fun and exhilarating sexual experience for both you and your partner. You should try out as many toys and costumes as you can to find the one that turns both of you on the most. Use this experience as a new adventure to rediscover your partner and yourself. Also, always keep in mind your partner’s boundaries and be aware of when to stop. Talk to each other and listen to your partner. This definitely includes dirty talk. There may also be times that your partner will be able to handle more than you think is acceptable to give. Just remember that trust and respect you have for them. Good luck.
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