If you’re having in your relationship, couple’s therapy can be a great tool to help mend ties and get you back on your feet. Just like single therapy, this can help you get out all of your angers and fears, and it will allow you both to get an opinion from a third party. Your therapist will tell you what’s going wrong and how you can improve on that through different techniques. Here are some tips that may allow you to get started.
The difference between a couple’s therapist and a sex therapist
Before you get into couple’s therapy, you need to know what you’re getting into. There’s something out there called sex therapy, which is a more specific form of couple’s therapy that works directly with issues that may be resulting from the sex in the relationship. If your sex life is the one thing stopping you from being happy with one another or it is the most prominent matter, you’ll want to look directly into sex therapy to solve your problems. If there are issues all around, you need to go into couple’s therapy so that you can work out all the underlying problems.
Finding a couple’s therapist
To find a couple’s therapist, you need to first determine if you want to go into group therapy or if you and your partner want to go to a private session. With group therapy, you will be around other couples who may be going through the same troubles you are, and you can build from their stories and successes. If you feel that matters are too personal for a class setting, you can simply get a session with you and your partner alone so that you guys work with one person all the time.
To find a couple’s therapist, you can either do a basic phone book/internet search, or you can check your local therapy clinics to see if anyone there is a qualified couple’s therapist. Nine times out of ten those clinics will have one or more professionals who will be able to help with your problems.
The cost of couple’s therapy
Couple’s therapy will likely have to be paid for out of pocket, and at times it can be expensive. You can look into couple’s classes at local churches to see if they offer any free forms of help. Granted, you may not be able to get professional help there, but you may be able to still learn from others and find a support system from people in the congregation. If you need more substantial help though, you can see if your insurance will cover the cost of the therapy. Otherwise you’ll have to come up with the money to pay the therapist’s hourly wage.
The importance of regular attendance
Just like with anything in this world, you can’t gain from couple’s therapy if you don’t actually go to it. Make sure that you schedule your appointments at a time that you can both make. Working one on one isn’t going to solve your problems. Than all you have to do is show up, talk and accept the advice given.
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