Getting over your first love seems like the most impossible task, one that can never really be achieved. This person was your everything for so long and you don't even know who you are without them anymore. If you're in this position then chances are you could use some advice, so take a look at the suggestions below.
Know That Time Heals
Right after a breakup it's almost impossible to see that you will be okay eventually, but try to remember that time heals all things. At the very beginning of your post-breakup days, you're not going to feel better with each passing day. Give yourself time to grieve and know that it's normal to be depressed for awhile after a devastating breakup. You will probably be gloomy for weeks or maybe a couple of months, but then you will find that weight on your heart begins to lift.
Cut Off Communication
Even though you're so used to the routine of talking to and seeing your love, you need to cut all ties from them. You won't be able to move on if you're constantly being reminded of all the things you love about that person. He or she might be someone that you want to have in your life as a friend, but you need to get over them before any kind of friendship is possible. Don't pretend that you can be buddies when it'll kill you every time you're with that person. Block their screen names, delete them as a Facebook friend, erase their phone number, and don't hang out with them. If you hang out with them then you might have to go through the pain of actually seeing that they no longer have feelings for you, and there is nothing that hurts more than that.
Turn To Friends
Don't try to hold in your pain, you need to get those tears out. Turn to your family or your closest friends and talk to them about what you're feeling, seek their advice. Talk to someone that has gone through this same experience because you'll be able to relate to them more than anyone else. If you'd ruined some of your friendships for the girl or guy that you were with, apologize and try to rebuild those friendships (if they're good friends they will understand). Don't separate yourself from people that care about you because being alone all the time is going to make the healing process much worse.
Go Out and Get To Know Yourself
Don't lock yourself in your bedroom to stare at photos of your ex. Get out of your house, do some activities, take a class, volunteer, shop, etc., basically keep yourself busy. Try to get to know yourself again, the single, independent, you. You don't have to start dating right away (although you should see other people), but just go out with friends. Enjoy doing activities that you didn't really get to do when you were in a relationship.
You Will Love Again
Although your first love seems like your truest love that is going to last forever, you will love again. Sometimes it takes meeting someone special to make you really get over your first love. Once you meet someone else and you get into a mature relationship, you'll realize that maybe your first love was not the love of your life. Don't convince yourself that you'll never find someone else because you'll psyche yourself out of any potential relationship.
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