Sex is supposed to be a pleasurable experience, so why is it painful for some women? If sex is painful for you, you’re not alone. Sex can be unpleasant and painful for many women and there are a number of reasons why. If sex is painful for you, do not lose hope – there is a solution to almost every possible issue, and you can have that divine experience as well.
Vaginal dryness can cause sexual intercourse to be an extremely painful experience. Women have natural vaginal lubrication but there are times when the vagina is more dry than usual, and penetration can be painful. Sometimes vaginal dryness can occur when you go straight into intercourse without stimulating (i.e. foreplay) the vagina enough for natural lubrication to set in. It can also occur if you’re nervous because the natural fluids don’t release as quickly. Sometimes vaginal dryness can be due to irregular hormones (oftentimes during menopause or medications). Using a condom without other lubrication can cause dryness also. Before you have sex, engage in foreplay and stimulate the clitoris for that extra lubrication. Also, even with more foreplay you can try lubricants like K-Y Jelly or AstroGlide. Never use petroleum based lubricants because they can damage the condom and cause vaginal infections.
Vaginal tightness can cause excruciating pain during intercourse and can occur due to a number of reasons. Vaginal tightness commonly occurs the first few times you engage in sexual intercourse because your vagina is not yet used to penetration – that’s nothing to worry about as long as it doesn’t remain that painful. Vaginal tightness can also occur because you’re tense or nervous during penetration. In rare cases vaginal tightness can occur because of a disease called vaginismus, which causes muscle spasms in the vaginal area during intercourse or during penetration by any object (i.e. tampon). You can try to relax your muscles and your mind and see if that helps the tightness. There are vaginal relaxation methods that you can try. If it’s as serious as vaginismus then you can usually fix it with dilators that gradually increase in diameter, stretching out the vagina.
It’s possible to have a vaginal infection and be unaware of it, but you’ll definitely notice it during sexual intercourse. Sometimes a woman can have a vaginal yeast infection, urinary tract infection (UTI), bladder infection, etc., and not know that it’s there. However, there will be a painful stinging or burning sensation. If your genitalia burns after sex you shouldn’t ignore it, go see your doctor because you might need antibiotics. If you’re prone to urinary tract infections it’s important to know that sex can induce these. You need to take those extra measures to make sure that you stay healthy. You should go pee within 10-minutes of finishing, it’s never a bad idea to shower afterwards, and cranberry juice can also help prevent UTIs.
Pain during intercourse can also be the result of some kind of vaginal irritation. Your vagina could be irritated by contraceptives, lubricants, creams, douches, and the list goes on. It’s important that you keep up your vaginal hygiene but don’t overdo it. Also, make sure that you’re not allergic to certain types of condoms or lubricants.
If you experience a sharp pain while thrusting it could be because his penis is hitting your cervix. Sometimes this can also occur because you’re stressing your pelvic muscles. The best way to solve this problem is to switch positions and see if it feels better. If you’re on top then you can control the direction and how deep he goes. There are other more serious health conditions that can cause painful intercourse, so if the pain persists then you should see a doctor. Sometimes physical pain from intercourse can be the result of emotional pain. You might need to see a sex therapist, counselor, or simply sort out some issues.