After your high school graduation comes so many new things. You have a million choices to make, including who to date. Now, if you have been a steady relationship for most of your high school years, you probably have already broken up with them or created some sort of plan to stay together. If you are single on the other hand, dating in college is a whole new world. Here are a few tips to help you tip-toe through it.
Know who you want to date
First, if you haven’t learned this by now, you don’t have to date every person that asks. There are many more options now and you don’t have to get anyone’s approval. No really. Your parents are at home. You’re away at school. They may approve; they may not, but if you don’t think they will, you don’t have to introduce your date to them. Think of dating in college like playing an elimination game. Go on dates. If you meet someone that holds you attention, go out again. Unlike high school, you may or may not choose to even see that person again and not seeing them can be simple and drama free.
Your decisions mean a lot more in college
Second, you are considered an adult now. You are making decisions now that will impact the rest of your life. So, try to use some the things your parents tried to teach you to make good ones. I know, you spent a good deal of time trying to ignore them, but they are entirely wrong. I tell you this because called can also be a cesspool of STDs. So, be careful who you choose to sleep with and always be safe. Ladies, it is not just the man’s job to be prepared. If you feel like your relationship is headed that direction, head to your nearest pharmacy and get protection. You might be thankful later.
Possible life beyond college dating
Third, relationships in college can lead to marriage. The people you meet and date now, if nothing else will help you in determining what you want in a life-long mate. One of them may even be it. There are couple of things you should remember though. Someone is paying a lot of money for you to attend school, so take advantage of that and only date if it isn’t going to take away from study time. Unlike high school, there is no one leaning over your should to make sure your homework is done. Also, the people you thought were losers in high school are probably still losers. If you wouldn’t waste your time on them then, why reconsider? Besides there are so many more things to do and people to hang out with they will be the furthest from your mind.
Dealing with a high school sweetheart relationship
Finally, for those of you still dating your high school sweetheart, college can be tough on a relationship. With very little time for each other, your love for each other can start to falter. Before you get to busy, set up a “Stay Together” plan. Have date nights. Study together if possible. Stay in constant communication. This should help to reassure both of you that the relationship is still there and on a firm foundation.
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