Going on a blind date can be nerve-wracking and exciting. Sometimes they can be extremely successful and other times they can be a down-right disaster. Try following a few of these easy tips and your blind date will be more likely to have the fairy-tale ending that you are hoping for!
Finding out about the date
If a close friend has set you up on your date, ask him or her as many questions as you can about the person with whom you are meeting. Find out what kinds of things they are interested in, about their past relationship(s), what he or she does for a living, etc. Granted, finding out this kind of stuff is the whole point of going on dates and getting to know someone, but it couldn’t hurt to know some things before you actually meet up! (You don’t want to meet with someone who you can’t see yourself with or who seems kind of off). When he or she does tell you the things you already know, just act like it is the first time you are hearing it. A plus: you will have an idea of what to avoid and what would be some good conversation starters!
Picking a place for the blind date
Choose a neutral location as your setting of choice. A relaxed restaurant is normally the best option because it’s less uncomfortable and up in the air than an upscale restaurant. You will feel less obligated to feel a certain way about someone or act any differently than you normally would if you aren’t in a romantic setting. If need to dress up in formal attire and end up sitting at a candle-lit dinner table, chances are that you did not choose the right place for the first date. A restaurant is also a good first date site because on blind dates it is important to have the opportunity to talk. If you go somewhere loud and too distracting, you won’t really even end up knowing who you are seeing and may end up agreeing to go on another date with a person that you would normally never go on another date with. Location is key.
What to think about on the blind date
Keep your mind open because you don’t want to shut out a new personality solely based on your unfamiliarity. You may have a particular “type” and may have only dated that “type,” but that isn’t to say that you can’t test the waters. You may already have a pre-conceived perception of your blind date partner because of what your friend already told you but that information came from one person’s perspective. You may trust that person’s opinion but it is important to hear out your date and let him or her explain themselves on their own. They may end up being different from what you’re used to but give them a chance because it could be the best choice that you ever made. “Opposites attract.”
Knowing what to say on the blind date ahead of time
Because you will have already asked your friend what your date is interested in, plan ahead and have a few simple conversations prepared. Finding topics that you will both be able to relate to will ease off the possible tension and will help you both warm up to each other. Standard subjects like food, sports, education, movies, music, art and family will help you get a good idea of what this person is like and whether or not you are similar. “So, do you have any kids? Pets?”, “Are you into classic rock?”, “Where did you go to school?” etc. When your date is talking, show that you are listening and interested in what they have to say.This date can be a whole lot of fun if you just be yourself and follow these easy suggestions. There is no reason to end up in an awkward silence or feel that you need to behave in a way that you do not feel. Happy dating!
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