So you’ve noticed that your other half is carrying a little more than ‘the other half” in the relationship – and you don’t mean in the responsibility department. Most people gain a little weight over the course of a relationship, but what do you do when your partner is doing more than storing nuts for the winter? Even though your sexual attraction to your paramour may be diminished by the unexpected weight gain, you still love your partner and don’t want to hurt him or her. Here are some tips that can help you deal with your lover’s weight gain.
Think beyond the weight
First, you need to concentrate on the person your paramour is independent of his/her weight. Your lover is more than the weight he/she puts on – a person whom you were attracted to when you met – and probably for more than just his/her physical appearance. You need to decide if the weight gain truly matters and look at all the personal qualities to which you were initially attracted, as you are bound to find some sexy features in the person’s personality as well.
How to get rid of the weight
If you decide that weight is an issue, then there are small things you can do to help your partner and yourself. For instance, start eating regularly with him/her, and plan your meals without appearing corrective. You don’t want to make the other person feel self-conscious about his/her weight or eating habits if it is something that can be corrected with a change of diet and exercise. Offer to start jogging, walking, or biking together. Motivate each other, and don’t put all of the focus on your partner; rather, ask your lover to suggest things he/she feels you could improve and work on. After all, a relationship (and life in general) is about working together, so embrace change and encourage one another to strive to reach your individual potential, which you can likely achieve without hurting one another’s feelings.
Reassure the person that you love him/her
Be sure your partner knows you love him/her, are attracted to him/her, and still find the person as sexy as the day you met. Don’t cut the person off from sex, as this can only worsen the situation depending on why the eating or weight habits have changed. You need to handle this carefully. Try using different positions, as more strenuous and active sex is GREAT exercise. Making the idea of losing weight and living a healthy lifestyle a fun experience allows for both of you to be involved, so take your lover shopping to an adult store to buy lingerie and sexual toys to spice things up in the bedroom. Introduce healthy foods to your partner in a sexual manner; healthy fruits like strawberries, grapes, and lemons can be both titillating and tasty.
Always include your partner in your life
Be sure to include your lover in everything you do: flirt, dance, go to dinner or the movies, and show off your partner when he/she feels attractive. Most importantly, don’t let your partner’s weight be the focus of your relationship or object of your affection. If there are health issues at play, then be consistent and persist that your loved one see a doctor.
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