Relationships between individuals who have great age differences are not uncommon today. You see it in the news and read it in the newspapers. How often have you heard a young star marrying a much older man or a young socialite marrying the head of a corporation? Some skeptics and parts of society still frown on these relationships. Their argument is that these relationships are mainly based on financial considerations. This maybe partly true, but what about the other relationships between simple people who just decided to be together because they love each other? Here are some tips for people who fall into a May-December love situation:
Why are you in that relationship?
Women find older men to be more open in their emotions and appreciative. It is a constant reminder of a protective father figure. Women always try to find that special someone who would genuinely take care of them and love them like their father does. With age comes maturity and the bond often shared by this relationships could always be compared to as that of father or daughter. Simply put, a May-December relationship is a new experience or something just simply exciting. You are probably in one right now or are planning to pursue one just for a new change of pace. There’s nothing wrong with that, but you’ll have to accept that society may not always agree with the way you think. Keep your chin up and move on with your love.
Thinking about the relationship
The easiest way to make the relationship work is to be true to yourself. Ask youself: Are you happy and comfortable with this setup? Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with this person? If you answer yes to one or both of those questions, then just be proud of who you are with! It doesn’t really matter what other people say because it is those time when you’re alone and think of him that you can honestly say that you love him, no questions asked. Keep that love always in your mind.
Remembering to act your age
You’re in your 20’s and just out of college and your partner is in his 40’s slaving away everyday at the office. Think about that. He’s already been through all the fun parts of being young, but you still have a lot of life left to experience! It is important that you still experience all the best parts of like while you‘re young, in spite of your older partner. All these experiences make you a better person in the future, and your partner will understand that you don‘t want to jeopardize that. Voice out how you feel and what you want to do. Maturity is something not learned in school, but rather it is experienced over time. Try to keep your partner happy, sure, but don’t forget about your own needs along the way.
Finding friends that work with your relationship
Find people you can be with that will accept your relationship. It is not enough that you accept your relationship. You need to have friends you can go out with and spend time with as a couple. Loved ones and especially family members who have learned to accept you and your partner’s differences are the best source of emotional support. More often than not, news of you having an affair with an older individual is not readily accepted. It may come as a shock to your friends family alike. Showing them how happy you are right now and how much he cares for you would go a long way towards their understanding.
Keeping up the communication
In any relationship, letting your partner know what you like and what you don’t like is very important. No matter what the case may be, speak out your mind. Your partner is not a mind reader; he doesn’t know what you exactly feel. Talk to your partner about anything you may be feeling, and listen if he needs to talk to you. Talking about the simplest things such as your favorite color or breakfast goes a long long way towards understanding one another. Age differences are not age difficulties. Forging a common ground and truly believing that a relationship can work is the basis for a long lasting relationship. Your May December romance may be unconventional, but that doesn’t mean it won’t work. Just stay honest with your partner, and you can easily have a long relationship.
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