As a rule, in-person sex is the way to go. But sometimes, circumstances will find you at opposite corners of the world, with only the phone to keep you company. Fortunately, using the phone is a great way for a couple to keep things interesting. While phone sex may not come naturally for most of us, there are some things you can do to make sure it’s great for both you and your partner. Here are a few tips:
Be comfortable before phone sex
First of all, make sure you’re comfortable. Some privacy is essential, so choose a time and place where you won’t be bothered for a while. Slip into something comfy, or nothing at all. Now would be a good time to draw up a nice bubble-bath, if you’re so inclined. The key is to find a place where you can feel completely relaxed.
Get a good voice
Another thing you can do to make phone sex great, is to work on a sexy voice. You might feel a bit silly at first, but nothing will put you and your partner in the mood faster than a sultry purr. Keep in mind that lower and huskier is always sexier. If you need the assistance of a little alcohol, go ahead, but don’t drink so much you have trouble speaking. It can help to try to put yourself in character--pretend you’re someone else acting out a fantasy.
Be excited about the phone sex
Even if you’re feeling a little unsure, be enthusiastic. Nothing kills the mood faster than a lackluster attitude, and nothing enhances it more than a great one. If your partner knows you’re excited, it will add to his excitement as well. Don’t feel stressed if you don’t know what to say next. Just as in real-life sex, sighs and moans are always sexy and add to the mood. If you really can’t think of what to say next, you can always ask, “And then what would you do to me?”
Use your imagination
One of the great things about phone sex is that you can be creative, and enhance reality. Your partner doesn’t need to know that your hair is in a ponytail and you’re wearing ratty old pj’s. As far as he’s concerned, you could be dolled up as a naughty schoolgirl, or a domineering nurse. This is where you can really have a lot of fun and let your imagination run away with you.
Be graphic
Don’t be afraid to be graphic. This is sex, after all. Be as dirty as you want to be, but if you’re still feeling shy, then try at least to use grown-up vocabulary rather than be too cutesy. For example, use the word “penis” instead of “ding-a-ling.” If you’re still having trouble coming up with things to say, let your partner take the lead, and just repeat back what he said in the sexiest voice you can muster.
How to react in an awkward moment
Don’t worry if things head in a freaky direction. If you really don’t know how to respond to something your partner just said, a sultry laugh is always a good cover. If you’re really uncomfortable with the way things are going, just steer the conversation in a different direction, rather than being too blunt about it.Having amazing phone sex isn’t that difficult. The key is to have fun, do it often, find out what your partner likes, and soon you’ll both be experts!
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