If you’re going to have an affair with your neighbor, at least do it right and get exactly what you want out of it. An affair is anything you want it to be. You have the power to control what level it will get to, how long it will last, and when it will happen. There are two different types of affairs, both of which are risky and personal. The first and most common kind of affair is strictly based on sex. The second kind is a way for one to see what else is out there, possibly with and underlying incentive to end a current relationship.
The type A affair
If you aren’t planning on splitting up with your partner but are looking to better your sexual satisfaction, you will be involved in a type A affair. A type A affair may be the more nerve-racking of the two but it is less personal. Maybe your real partner isn’t in the mood for sexual activity as often as you are anymore. Maybe they can’t provide you with the pleasure he or she once did. Or perhaps it’s just getting boring and repetitive and you’re looking to have a little more wild fun in bed. Any affair is difficult to maneuver but of the two, this one is harder – in the sense of covering it up, that is. Sneaking around is trickier and getting caught is a lot easier (ex. accidently leaving behind a piece of lingerie, not disposing of a condom wrapper or being walked in on). Your time spent together will be limited but may occur often. You may lie to your significant other saying that you have to do a quick errand but are really running for a quick booty call.
The type B affair
A type B affair is a way of testing the waters and seeing if getting out of your current relationship would be the best move. In a way, having an affair with intent of breaking up with your significant other is almost a way of ensuring back-up. Once you end the relationship, you will still have someone there for both emotional and physical needs. Instead of meeting up to have sex, you may have a romantic dinner at an underground restaurant. You may schedule a “business trip” but in reality, you’re going away for the weekend. A type B is very personal because feelings can be developed in a big way. Whether you are single, seeing a taken man or woman or you are taken and seeing a single man or woman, things can get intense and intimate.
Where does a neighborly affair fall?
Having an affair with your next door neighbor is extremely risky but if you are into this kind of thing, it can also be incredibly exciting. For the most part, a neighbor affair would fall under the type A category because anything more would be too much considering the close proximity. The thing about an affair with a neighbor is that there are ways to avoid suspicion considering you live next door to each other, but it is also very easy to be suspicious. Being seen together may not be considered strange since you do live right next door to each other, unless it is often and your behavior is a give-away.
Staying under the radar
Keep a low profile if and when you go out somewhere together. No matter what you think, everyone in a neighborhood watches everyone else. If you are caught going over to each other’s houses a bit too much, it could be brought up with the spouse in a later conversation. If you are seen going somewhere together, it could raise questions. If you go somewhere that requires money, paying with anything but cash is dangerous if your partner has access to records.
Acting like everything is normal
The fact that this person is your next door neighbor is hazardous in terms of your outside behavior. You are bound to see them from time to time when you are with your significant other and you must be careful about the way you interact. Act like you would before your affair started and do not be awkward with each other. Don’t mention his or her name or talk about them more than you regularly would. “I saw Becky outside working on her garden today,” “Mike said that he thinks it’s a good idea…” or “We should see if the neighbors want to join us for dinner.” If Becky gardens on a regular basis or if you see her outside often, why would you point it out now? Since when did Mike’s opinion matter so much? And when have you ever done something like dinner with the neighbors? Don’t act out of the ordinary.
Keeping up the cover story
Don’t get too confident. Once you get started and feel that tactful enough that no one knows your game, it could get to your head and you may not be as careful. Words can slip, evidence can be left behind and spouses can catch on.Meeting with a neighbor has to be very discreet. If you any children and they are home, you should never – by any circumstances – have him or her over at the same time. The same thing goes for when you go over there. Also, don’t plan on meeting up unless you are absolutely positive that BOTH of your partners will not be home for a while. You can’t saunter over, unaware of their whereabouts or their schedules. If one of you is caught, you will both be in trouble.
Spicing up the affair
On another note, this can be an exhilarating experience if your real relationship is becoming a bust. Casting flirtatious looks across the yard, running over for a quick session before anyone gets home, being able to see them quite often without actually “seeing each other” – all of these possibilities suggest a crazy, fulfilling encounter.
The other affair option
In an affair with a neighbor, type B is not possible unless both parties wish to end their current relationship. Both people have to be on the same page if they are even going to consider an affair to be a possibility. Intimacy is not an option because if feelings develop and one person is ready to leave their partner and the other doesn’t want to, emotions and jealousy can emerge. One may even feel compelled to tell their lover’s spouse what was going on between them if he or she refuses to end things. Hey, they were about to leave their own partner anyways so what have they got to lose?
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