Childbirth is a miracle but it can put a damper on your sex life. Your entire life and body changes after giving birth and sometimes it's hard to find that intimacy that you once felt. If you're having a hard time feeling that sexual pleasure then take a look at these tips for hot post-baby sex.
Wait a Few Weeks
Although it might seem like years to wait a few weeks to have sex after birth, it will help you to achieve hot post-baby sex in the future. A woman's body takes time to recover from childbirth and that can cause pain for you during sex. Sometimes there is scarring, soreness, or vaginal dryness. If you have sex during the recovery stage then you're going to have a negative view on sex because it might hurt. Wait four to six weeks after childbirth when your body has had a chance to recover so then you don't correlate sex with pain, and you have a better chance of regular hot post-baby sex in the future. Not to mention, you don't want to risk injuring yourself so starting intercourse after your postnatal exam is not a bad idea. In the meantime try other intimate activities like oral sex or steamy makeout sessions.
Stop Dwelling On Your Imperfections
The fact that you're hung up on your post-baby body can create a major halt in your love life. So you might be a little more jiggly than you were before you had the baby, your partner still wants to jump your bones. Men pay attention to the big picture but they do not notice little details like a couple of stretch marks or some cellulite here and there. If you cannot get in the mood if you're baring it all then invest in some sexy lingerie that covers some of your problem areas – it'll hide the parts of your body that you don't like and it will also make you feel sexier. Also, engage in physical exercise because it'll make you feel better about yourself – if you don't have time to go to the gym then take a walk with your kids, vacuum the whole house, etc. You can also dim the lights with sensual candles because that will create a romantic atmosphere and it will make your imperfections less visible!
Boost That Libido
After childbirth it is not uncommon to have a lack of libido. Because you probably spend most of your day tending to your new baby, you cannot just run off and have sex. Make sure to touch each other during the day – i.e. back-rubs, quick taps on the butt, caressing hugs, long (or short) smooches, etc. Making physical contact throughout the day will heighten your desires to make love when the baby is asleep. Another way to boost your post-baby libido is to remember things that you notice throughout the day that turn you on. For example, if you were watching Basic Instinct and you felt that tingling feeling in your lower region, then keep that in your mind throughout the day and build anticipation for your own steamy sex scene.
Tighten Vaginal Muscles
Childbirth stretches out your vaginal muscles and there is little that you can do to prevent that. Unfortunately, looseness means less friction for both of you and that usually results in less pleasure. Your muscles will tighten up naturally but there are exercises that you can do to quicken the process. Kegel exercises are the most common exercise that women use. You can do kegel exercises by tightening those muscles that you would to stop the flow of urine, and holding it for 15-20 seconds. Do as many repetitions as you can per day and since these exercises are so subtle you can do them virtually anywhere.
Try Different Positions and Toys
There is no denying that your body changes after sex and it might be more difficult for you to have an orgasm. If there is pain or discomfort during sex then you can try being on top because you will be the one to control the angle of penetration and you can maneuver yourself so that it feels good. Other positions that tend to bring more pleasure during post childbirth sex are sitting or lying on your side positions. If you're not experiencing soreness but you just cannot climax then try using some toys. A vibrating ring works because you're bound to feel the friction, and the vibration brings pleasure for both people.
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