We all hope that there will be magic and fireworks when we finally have sex with someone we've been dating, but sometimes things don’t work out perfectly. If this is the case, and you’ve found that your girlfriend is a bit too small and you’re a bit too large, don’t worry, because if you take just a few simple precautions, you can easily make your next time together the best yet.
Getting her as lose as possible
Focus on foreplay. When a woman is highly aroused, her vagina lubricates and elongates itself, making it so a penis of just about any size will fit just fine. The key here is to understand that the vagina is a muscular tube that tenses or relaxes depending on what's going on. So, if your girlfriend is not very aroused or relaxed before and during intercourse, it will be more difficult to achieve vaginal entry, and in most cases quite painful for her. Get things started first with hugging, kissing, and mutual masturbation or oral sex: whatever works best for the both of you. Once you both are highly aroused, then you can move on.
Helping your “endowment” slide in better
Lubricate! While the vagina can easily lubricate itself, sometimes it just isn’t enough. When this is the case, it’s a great idea to introduce some form of silicone, water, or oil based lubricant. However there are some basic precautions you and your partner need to take to make sure the lube doesn’t interfere with your fun. For starters, when using a condom, make sure the lubricant is not oil based as those can easily break down latex condoms; water and silicone are both condom friendly. Some good brands are KY, Astroglide, and Aqua Lube. If you choose to forego the condom, oil based may help with the ease of insertion as it is slicker and lasts longer than the others.
Experimenting with different styles of sex
Try a new position. While the most common position involves the man on top, for those couples who need a bit more help, it isn’t the best position to start. Instead, try new positions that allow you both to keep you in control of the movements and the depth of penetration. For example, girl-on-top is a great way to start, and it’s even better if your girlfriend doesn’t straddle you with both knees, but rather puts one foot down flat on the bed for depth control. If you choose to attempt the missionary position, try rapid but shallow thrusts to keep full penetration to a minimum.
Thinking beyond the sex
Take it slow and communicate. This step is quite possibly the most important of them all, because no matter what, communication and starting slow is the best way to begin any session, not just those with size issues. So, start slow and gradually ease yourself into your girlfriend, paying close attention to any pain she may be experiencing. If there is pain, add some more lubricant or try another position, and switch back once things have started. And don’t forget to communicate how you're feeling, and do not put too much pressure on yourselves. It can be a struggle to make things fit, and you’re not alone in this dilemma. But, if you take your time and follow these easy guidelines, you and your partner will soon find that sex can be enjoyable, even with your size differences.
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