Living with a disability is never an easy thing, but it may be even harder when you’re involved in a sexual relationship. Whether your disability makes you unable to have actual sex or it just makes things are, you have to approach the situation in a different way than most people. Here are some tips that may help you get off, despite your disabilities.
Disabled foreplay
To get your partner in the mood for sex, you need to get their mind off your disability. The easiest way to do this is by using those powerful lips of yours. Yes, something as simple as a passionate kiss can severely impact the way a person is thinking at a certain point in time. Use that for yourself. Work with your hands too to fondle the person and get them in the mood for sex. If you can’t use your hands, use your breath. Don’t ;et anything stop you from putting the other person in the mood.
Transitioning to sex
If you have trouble moving, it may be best to opt for whatever sex worthy piece of furniture is in the area. This may mean a couch, your wheelchair, a coffee table, or even the floor. Looking at you walk, roll, or limp to the bedroom while disabled may cause the person’s mind to go back on that. Remember, you want to keep the mind on sex, so try not to have a break between foreplay and intercourse.
The actual sex
Sex will probably happen just like it normally would. Just make sure that you really stay in the zone and if you find a spot that works for your partner, work it well. Test out a few different positions while still remaining in that sexy atmosphere so that you can figure out what is going to feel the best for both of you.
Thinking beyond sex
You need to remember that “sex” comes in many forms. There is oral sex, hand sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, and all kinds of other sexes out there. Work with the one that best fits your disability. If there is just no way to get a girl to sit on your dick, let her give you a blowjob. You should give her one as well. If fingering works for you, then by all means go for it. Mutual masturbation may also be something to look into. Just don’t limit yourself to vaginal intercourse. The sky is the limit.
Sex with yourself
Masturbation sort of flows with all of this in that it is still a form of sex, even if no one else is involved. You of course will be the only person that knows how to pleasurably masturbate, but there are some things you can do to help yourself. Lubricants are always a plus and they can really add to your alone time. You can try whacking off with a condom on so there is no mess to clean up afterwards. Working with porn in the background is always good because it gets that dirty frame of mind right out in the open. Try experimenting with your masturbation so you’ll know what feels good on yourself when another person comes over.
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