While virginity in our society today may seem a bit out of the ordinary, the fact is that a lot of women are in fact virgins. So, if you’ve come to the point in your relationship with someone and she’s decided you’re the one, you’ll want to keep a few things in mind as you go about this act. When you’re dealing with someone with no experience, she won’t know what to expect from sex, apart from what media and friends have told her. That means she’ll either be expecting a lot of pain or a ton of ecstasy, depending on what she’s heard. Either way, she’s definitely going to be nervous, so keep reading for some tips to keep everything fun and enjoyable for you both.
Take control
You are the experienced one here, so to keep the awkward level low and the fun high, deliver some firm, but gentle, guidance. In fact, the less experienced person is going to expect it, so don’t be afraid to lead with confidence. Also remember to control yourself during this, and not to take things too quickly, and make sure you are both relaxed and comfortable before going on to each next step.
Get comfortable
For you and your partner's first sexual experience together to be as great as it can possibly be, it is important that you find an environment that is comfortable for the both of you, such as a time at home alone with no interruptions. You have to make sure that everything is relaxed because sex will be painful otherwise.
Choose a position
For their first time, it would be a good idea to choose a sexual position that will put your partner at ease over the speed or depth of penetration. A good position is one such as the female-on-top, where the female sits on top of the male and straddles him, which will allow your partner to have more control over her body and to use her own weight to guide herself onto you. Another popular position is the missionary position, where the woman is on her back and the man is facing her from above. This allows for face-to-face contact, which can aid in easing any nerves.
Final thoughts on having sex with a virgin…
No matter what position you use or how you and your partner go about the act, be sure you are both ready to initiate a sexual relationship. This means having a talk before getting into bed, and discussing past sexual partners and the possibility of STD’s, and any concerns or fears you each may have. Also remember to make sure contraceptive needs are met ahead of time, such as being on the pill or purchasing condoms, so that this won’t be overlooked in the time leading up to the act. If you can’t talk about sex, you are not ready to have sex. Just remember that you can only lose your virginity once. Make sure that you make it worth your while.
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