You love him a lot. He is kind, considerate and loves you, but the zing is missing. All that love is not translating into passion in bed. It is normal, and most couples go through a period when love making becomes very predictable. If this is the case with you, you need to get it out in the open. Remember that communication is the best way to solve most problems. Here are some ways to hint to your man that you need some spice in your sex life:
How NOT to start the conversation
Do not start the conversation with the standard “Honey we need to talk”, unless you want him to dig a trench and jump right into it. Most men are terrified of their mates and partners starting any conversation with this line. They start having nightmares about various things like money problems, divorce, or even that they had too much to drink last night! This is about love and loving. Go easy.
Subtle hints that suggest sex
Be creative. The smartest way to do this would be to leave a porn site clearly visible on the computer or keep a porn magazine open at a page you want to really experiment with on the bed. This may not seem like your style, but let’s face it, your style hasn’t been working yet, has it? Potter around in the other room while he leafs through the magazine or website. When you get to the bedroom, chances are that he will be flipping through the magazine (what man does not like porn?). You can then easily start a conversation and tell him you would really like to try the sex act depicted.
Using food to get him thinking “spicy”
Another way would be to prepare a wonderful meal that is if you like to cook. You could just order a great meal otherwise, along with wine. Lay out the spread in the bedroom and invite him for a naked meal. Men love women who take the lead. While eating and drinking you could start your foreplay and then tell him gently that you thought sex was beginning to get a bit routine and you wanted a change. He will get the message and enjoy it too.
Using toys to leave hints
Another way to do this would be to buy some sex toys and leave them next to the pillow. If you have kids, this could present a problem though! Another way would be to wrap the toys in a gift box and present it to him once the kids are asleep. Trying out the toys would definitely add spice to your sex life.
Leaving him hints online
Mail him links to various porn sites at his personal email address. Just add a small note saying “Tonight let’s visit and try (the link) for our date together” or something along those lines If he calls you up, you have the opening you need to tell him that you really wanted to try emulating the stuff depicted.
One thing you should NEVER say
Do not, unless you want to destroy the relationship totally, do not tell him that sex with him is boring. Avoid telling him that you want him to be creative. Just suggest that you would like to try out some other stuff. what really happened. You could try all these suggestions or one of two of them and sex between you and your partner will never be boring again.
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