Men and women are very different when it comes to sex. While men are more prone and willing to skip the lead-in and jump right into bed, women often enjoy foreplay and sweet talk. If you are a man trying to coax a woman into bed, follow these tips.
Setting the sexy mood
It is important to go slow if you are trying to initiate sex with a woman. Start out the night with a nice, romantic candle lit dinner and a bottle of red wine. Maintain eye contact across the table throughout the entire meal and don’t forget to tell her how beautiful she looks. Point out her striking features and compliment her on her outfit choice (because she definitely went out of the way to prepare herself and impress). The compliments will earn you brownie points.Choose a romantic movie – not the big game or an action flick – and bundle up on the coach at home. Remember – you are trying to get her in bed. Watching the big football game and getting all rowdy will not turn her on.
Making use of eye contact
If you have a hard time taking your eyes off her, don’t look away if she catches your gaze. During the movie, hold her hand and/or stroke her hair. This is the first stage of touching. It’s important to not jump right in and grab the breast or go down her pants because she may not want or be ready for that.
Talking to the woman to get her aroused
Whisper something in hear ear. Tell her how sexy she looks tonight and tell her you would like to kiss her. As she starts to let on, slowly lean in for a kiss and only continue if she leans in as well. Kiss her long and slow to let her know that you are so into her and not just looking for a hot make-out session. Be sensual and seductive but keep your hands in a respectable place.
Gauging the type of sex you’ll have
When you are trying to seduce a woman, you need to understand her on a different, deeper level. Appreciate and comprehend what it is that she wants out of this night and how she wants to get to that point. She may want someone who is gentle or she might want someone who is aggressive. Do a few tests to see what level she wants to be at.
Making the move for sex
As she starts to get more intense, hold her face in your hands with a firm enough grip that you are firm enough that she can tell how bad you want her but still gentle enough that you aren’t hurting her. Only move your hands down when you have been kissing for a while and you know that she wants you back, just as badly. Suggest giving each other massages with lotions and hot oil if you have any. The warmth and sensuality – the suggestion ALONE – will turn her on even more.Try some light touching but still try to avoid ripping off her clothes. If she seems ok and appears to want to do more, that’s the green light. Feel one another and get each other to the point where you are about to step over your limit. When you can’t take it anymore, suggest going upstairs to your bedroom or, even more exciting, the shower. The shower is a great place to continue foreplay. If you have room, it’s also a great place to have sex. There is something incredibly sexy about making love in a shower so if she seems up to it, don’t hesitate… it will definitely be worth it.
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