How To Introduce Sex Toys Into the Bedroom : Sex Basics

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Using sex toys can add a whole new oh-so-pleasurable dimension to your physical relationship with your partner. Whether your sex life has started to feel a little stale or you’re just curious and adventurous, toys can make your sexual playtime more interesting and pleasurable. But introducing toys into the bedroom can be awkward, so here are some helpful hints and guidelines:
Talk about it ahead of time
The element of surprise is usually not your friend when you’re introducing sex toys into the bedroom. Suddenly pulling an aide out from under your pillow in the heat of the moment might confuse or anger your partner. If you’re interested in adding excitement and experimentation to your sex life with novelty items, bring it up outside of the bedroom first. This way you can have a thoughtful discussion without anyone feeling the pressure to perform.
Make the partner realize why you want the toys
Reassure your partner that you’re interest in using toys in the bedroom has nothing to do with inadequacies or lack of fulfillment on their part, because for some people this can be an ego issue. Plenty of people are losing their livelihoods as production becomes more automated, and nobody wants feel like they’re being replaced by a machine in the bedroom as well. Emphasize the fact that you’re hoping for the toy to function as a tool or supplement to your lovemaking rather than as a replacement. Point out that sex toys (especially vibrators) aren’t just for private masturbation and that you can both enjoy them.
What not to say
If, on the other hand, the reason you want to introduce toys into the bedroom IS because the other person isn’t providing full satisfaction, you’ll probably want to omit that information or approach it with a deft hand. When you broach the topic, be sure to emphasize that your main interest is in adding another dimension of exploration and pleasure to your private sex life that will improve and expand lovemaking for both of you.
What kind of sex toys to get
Once you’ve agreed to take the plunge and introduce sex toys in the bedroom, you’ll need to figure out what kind of novelty item works best for you. This may take some trial and error, but that’s half the fun! Like sex, this is something you can do as a couple. Search together online or shop in person together at a store to find something you think you will both enjoy using.
Be ready to take some suggestions too
Since you’ve asked your partner to take this leap with you, it’s both fair and courteous for you to be open to trying other things as well. Perhaps when you made this suggestion you were thinking you’d start off small with a pocket vibrator that you could both use, but before you know it your partner is testing out the durability of those feather-covered handcuffs. If you find that your ideas differ about what sex toys are the right ones for you to use, you’ll either need to compromise or try both.
Admit you’re nervous
If you’re nervous about using the sex toys together – even if it was your idea – then admit it. Adding a new dimension to your sex life can be both exciting and intimidating, and sometimes it means being able to “let go” even more so than you might be accustomed to. Finally, keep in mind that communication and comfort are key throughout the process of introducing sex toys into the bedroom.