Anybody who has been in an argument with their girlfriend sees the truth in, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." Sometimes it’s impossible to keep your woman calm, but there are other times that your actions add fuel to the fire. If you’re notorious for causing arguments to blow up on account of not being able to keep your girlfriend calm, read the list below to save your relationship (and possibly your life).
Listen To Her Talk
You don’t have to agree with your girl but you do have to listen. If you want her to give you the same respect of listening to your side of the argument, then set the example. Don’t pay attention to your cell phone, TV, iPod, laptop, etc., pay attention to her. Even if you’ve mastered the art of multitasking and you’re able to hear her and watch TV, she isn’t going to accept that. If you’re not looking at her and interacting she is going to think that you don’t hear her. One word answers like, "Yeah," "Okay," or "Uh huh," are not going to cut it.
Do Not Laugh, Snicker, or Smirk
No matter how amusing you think your girlfriend’s argument might be, you should never laugh, snicker, or smirk at her. She is already irritated and you’re just going to make her think that you don’t take her seriously – and that will piss her off even more. Plus, you’re going to give her the impression that you don’t really care to work the issue out because you wouldn’t be laughing if you did. If your goal is to keep your girlfriend calm during an argument and actually try to solve the problem, laughing, snickering, or smirking, is going to take you 10-steps further from the finish line.
Do Not Yell
Most of the time women will figuratively turn their ears off when a man starts yelling. It doesn’t make her listen more, if anything it does the opposite. Yelling might also scare her because sometimes it seems violent. If you want her to hear your side of the argument and you want her to take you seriously, argue in an "inside voice." Plus, if she is the one at fault in the argument and then you start screaming at her, you’re actually giving her something to blame you for (and thus place you partially at fault).
Do Not Tell Her To "Shut Up"
Sometimes women have a tendency to go on and on, and you’re not able to get a word in. Even though you’re probably thinking in your head, "Shut the hell up already!" saying something like, "Can I say something?" will work a lot better. Telling someone to shut up is disrespectful and demeaning. She shouldn’t tell you to shut up either. You tell a sibling or a buddy to shut up, but not your significant other. If you tell her to shut up then you’re actually opening up a new argument about how you should be more respectful to her, so it’s in your best interest not to use these words.
Do Not Infer That She’s Crazy or Stupid
It’s possible that your girlfriend is overreacting but it is also possible that you genuinely made a mistake that upset her. If you try to tell her that she is acting crazy you’re going to make her really act crazy. It’s very annoying when someone won’t take any responsibility for a problem, and claiming that she’s crazy is placing the responsibility solely on her. You do not need to take responsibility for an argument if you’re not at fault, but don’t call her crazy or stupid either. And for the record if you ask, "Are you crazy?!" that’s not just asking an innocent question, it’s the same as calling her crazy.
Do Not Tell Her To Calm Down
There is nothing more nerve-wracking during an argument than being told to calm down. If she is getting increasingly angry with you, do you think telling her to calm down is going to make her actually calm down? I don’t think so. You’re going to only annoy her by telling her to chill. Unless she is a completely erratic person, she is probably calm enough. Telling her to calm down will seem as though you’re actually mocking her.
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