How To Kiss on a First Date : Sex Basics

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First date jitters are common. After all, it’s understandable that you would be nervous about spending time with someone to whom you’re attracted, and there’s a lot of pressure to be interesting and fun. But even if a first date goes well and you begin to relax, those jitters can often return as you begin to think about the first kiss with a mixture of anticipation and dread.The thing about first kisses is that they’re like first impressions: you never get a second chance at one. And the first kiss has a lot riding on it since it can make or break you. Realizing that you have only one chance at a first kiss puts a lot of pressure on a person. Here are some tips to make sure that first kiss isn’t any more nerve-racking than it has to be:
Keep your breath fresh for the kiss
If you’re having a good time on the date and expect it will close with a kiss (or would like for it to), be proactive and prepared. Pop a mint before so that your breath is ready and act as confident as you can. If you’re not sure if a first date is going to end in a kiss but you’d like for it to, communicate that with body language. Another good way to get the point across subtly is to offer the other person a gum or mint as well, which gives the impression that you’re anticipating a kiss and want both of you to be prepared.
Figure out what kind of kiss is appropriate
The old saw says that you can’t judge book by its cover, but your first kiss may well be a big part of how the other person initially (and perhaps permanently) defines you. That said, a first kiss is sort of like an Olympic gymnastics routine in that you’re going to be judged not just on technique and execution, but also on performance and “artistic interpretation.” A first date is usually no place for an aggressive kiss. Tongue is usually inappropriate as well, especially if it’s a good night kiss. However, you should take the take cue for what’s appropriate and acceptable from your date, like you’ve hopefully been doing all evening as you read and processed body language.
You don’t always have to wait until the end of the date
If you get have a history of getting really nervous about delivering the first date kiss, consider not waiting until the end of date. A quick, friendly kiss earlier in the evening will do two things. First, it will get any awkwardness about kissing out of the way. Second, it will communicate that you’re comfortable with physical contact. But be careful with this “preliminary” kiss, because we’re not talking about laying one on your date between the entrée and dessert as a prelude to the good night kiss at the end of the evening. Instead, we’re talking about a barely-there kiss that’s short and sweet with barely any contact. One way you can go about this is to offer a continental or European-style kiss when you meet up at the beginning of the date, which is a brief kiss on the cheek offered in the way of or in conjunction with a greeting. If this seems too intimidating or laughable for you to pull off, then try to get a small kiss in another way. For instance, maybe you can say something like, “I can’t believe we got a parking spot this close. You’re my good luck charm tonight!” and then offer up an exaggerated smooch on the cheek. The important thing about this kiss is that it’s short and sweet and that you carry it off with confidence and as if it’s no big deal. You know that you’re doing it to get comfortable for the big kiss at the end of the evening, but you’re playing it off like you’re just a naturally affectionate person.
Be confident no matter what
The last bit of advice is predictable, but that doesn’t make it any less true. When it’s time for your first date kiss, you need to be calm, comfortable and confident. Your self-assurance will put the other person at ease, and it will be a more pleasurable experience for both of you.