Since you were a child, you have always dreamed of that knight in shining armor who would sweep you off your feet as he valiantly gallops on his white steed and you two would live happily ever after in perpetual bliss. But looking at your present situation with your current boyfriend, your lifelong childhood dream is starting to look blurrier than before. You may have been bitten by the love bug and you may be racing against your biological clock, but there are certain things you need to consider in order for you to know whether you should just dump your guy or what you have is the real thing. Here are some tips to find out if your man is a “keeper”:
Knowing who he is to see if he’s a keeper
How much do you know about him? If you just met your boyfriend at a friend’s party or bumped into him one Saturday afternoon and both of you just suddenly clicked, chances are, you don’t have an ounce of an idea what he is like when you are not around. Call it snooping, but it is a preventive measure for you to know at least some bits of his history. Talk to him often and try to figure him out. He may not be a saint as he tries to portray in front of you. If he really is into you and has nothing to hide, he probably has tons of stories to share and can look you straight in your eyes while telling them. However, if he always clams up or diverts the topic, you better be wary.
Considering his friends as a factor
Have you met his friends? Regardless of whether you two just met four weeks ago or four months ago, ask yourself this: “Has he introduced me to any of his real friends?” Why is this important you say? Because when your guy introduces you to his friends, it normally means that he cares enough about you and wants his friends to know about the special person in his life. Just be cautious of the jokes his friends tell you whenever you are with them. Sometimes guy’s jokes are half meant. It’s just up to you to gauge whether or not the joke about him having multiple girlfriends at one time is fact or fiction.
Thinking about HIS family to see if he’s a keeper
Does his family know and approve of you? Don’t jump to the conclusion yet that he might propose to you anytime soon, but it is a special event if and when your guy brings you to meet and have lunch with his family. It means he is not ashamed to introduce you to his picky mother, his strict father or his bratty sister. It takes a lot of effort for a guy to do this act because to them, it means that they maybe opening up themselves to you more than they had intended to and giving you a sneak peak and almost complete access to his more private life.
Listening to your family for advice if he's a keeper
What does your family say about him? You know that your dad will forever be protective of you and that your mother might always say that nobody will be good enough for their princess, but tell me, what was your family’s reaction when you introduced your guy to them one afternoon? Could he carry a conversation with your mom? Did your dad invited him to next Saturday night’s beer fest or did it look like your parents wanted to throw him out of the house the minute he stepped inside? Though you may be hopelessly in love with him, the “you and me against the world” kind of relationship doesn’t always work out right, especially if it’s your family that dislikes him.
The biggest step of all: Thinking about your feelings
How does he make you feel? Though there are many contributing factors to help you decide, in the end it is always up to you. How does her make you feel? Does your mood lighten up the minute he walks into the room; does he make you laugh on your down days? Is he there to listen to you when you’re mad at the world? Does he like to spend time with you or your loved ones and most importantly, observe how you feel about him, does loving your boyfriend feel right? If your answer is a definite yes, then he is surely a keeper.
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