Sex on the first date really depends on each person’s perspective, goals and morals. Both people must really think about what they want out of the relationship before taking part because if they are not thinking in a parallel manner, the likelihood of things going wrong is probable.
The consequences of having sex on the first date
On one hand, one may think that it is impossible to get serious with someone after having sex on the first date. Having intercourse so soon takes away from the excitement of the chase and leaves no room for mystery. Knowing how he or she is going to be in bed straight from the get-go diminishes chances of having that initial thrill when the time comes. Many times, men thoroughly enjoy the pursuit of a woman. When they finally win her over after working for her for a long time, they feel a sense of accomplishment. Giving yourself up on the first night steals that chance from them.
The risk of ruining a relationship
There is also a great possibility that one will not pursue anything further than sex, based only on how it was on the first night. Say for example, two people got together on a first date, had dinner then rushed home and had sex. Maybe one of the two wasn’t very good at what they did so the other person gets turned off. The person who may not have been very good in bed could have the best personality. These two could be completely compatible but if sex is rushed and someone is turned off, chances of getting together again may be slim and they’d never know that they would be a great match. This may seem a bit shallow but it’s true.
Losing the respect when having sex on the first date
Sex on the first date is basically asking to not be respected. Your partner may think that you have no dignity and that will “put out” for anyone. They may question how many times you have done this and will think you are easy. It also gives people the impression that you don’t have any respect for yourself. Such a level of intimacy should be earned because it makes it all the more meaningful. If you had any expectations out of this one night stand, like being called for something other than sex or a bouquet of flowers for example, don’t get your hopes up.
When you can have sex on the first date
On the other hand, if you both are on the same page and have no personal issues about what may happen or may have already happened, then why not go for it? It’s important to be in control of your own decisions and to know what you want out of it. Are you in for a one night stand or a strictly sex relationship? Or, would you both still be interested in dating afterwards? If so, it’s not a problem. It becomes a problem when one party has one set of priorities and the other things in mind.The decision of sex on the first date is solely based on the two partied involved. Discussing each other’s motives and desired agenda are a must and both must be prepared for things to not go as planned, just in case. Besides, who really wants to wake up the morning after a one night stand and have to do the walk of shame? So awkward! Why bother if you will most likely regret it in the morning – if not sooner.
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Christopher6 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
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