Do you ever get the feeling that you are in a strictly physical relationship? This may not be a big deal to some people, but it is when you want something more than sex. Sure, a hot physical relationship is great, but a lot of us want substance. Sex can only be so filling. Here are some things you can look for to determine if you are just being used for sex. Forewarning, I say “he” and “his” in this article, but it applies for the ladies too.
You are kept a secret
Does you partner tell his family about you? His friends don’t really count because most people will brag about awesome sex with their friends. Not with family though - with family, it’s straight emotion. So, figure out if you are even acknowledged in that situation. If mom and dad don’t know about you and the relationship has gone on for awhile, it’s nothing serious. All it is is a sex fling.
Your dates practically start with sex
There is nothing wrong with having a relationship full of sex, but a line gets crosses when you can’t even have a date without jumping under the sheets after five minutes. The only way this is okay is if you have an actual date afterwards. If it turns out to be a hook and book, then yes, you are being used for sex. Your partner should have no issue in going on a date and then having sex. Ask if you can do that and see how he responds.
You have no understanding for his personality
What do you really know about your partner outside of the bedroom. If you guys have had a committed relationship for awhile and your answer to that is “I dunno”, you’re being used for sex. You should at least have some sort of knowledge about who you are dating as a person, not as a toy. If you don’t, then you know the answer…
You guys don’t talk
How often do you have good conversations with your partner? If those are few and far between but the sex isn’t, you can kind of get an idea of the type of relationship you have. Sex should not encompass more than 50% of a relationship, and in most cases that is more like 10%. You need to have a good balance to have a good relationship.
What to do...
If you don’t mind a solely sex based relationship, then by all means have one. However, if you are striving for something greater than that, talk to your partner or get out of the relationship entirely. It is obvious that person does not see you in the right light. You can’t change that. Just attempt to find someone that won’t take advantage of you next time. Now you know what to look for.
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