Being too hard to get is obviously the opposite of being clingy, and though most would prefer being hard-to-get than saying yes with open arms to everything, being constantly unreachable also has its disadvantages. If you are too cold or too unapproachable, people will never want to pursue a relationship with you. You know you’re too hard to get if you’ve been single for awhile just because you assume that no one is good enough for you (or worse, because you like to play hard to get way too much). Here are some tips to prevent from being too unreachable:
Avoiding the too-hard-to-get stage
Sure, in the dating world you know how important it is to maintain a mysterious and interesting aura that adds more excitement to the chase, but the problem with people who play hard-to-get for the thrill of such a chase is that they eventually become so elusive that they turn into the impossible-to-get. To avoid turning into the impossible-to-get, keep in mind that opening your mind and heart to the possibility of being with a person is the only way to ever finding the love and care you want in a long-term relationship.
Keeping balance in your life
This behavior will definitely ruin your chances of ever finding the right person for you, so in order to keep from being too hard-to-get, you have to know how to balance being open and being mysterious to such an extent that you are worth the chase and at the same time interested in the idea of a relationship with him or her. You can do this by not answering calls and text messages once in a while but replying frequently enough to keep him or her on his or her toes.
Opening up about yourself
You can open a few topics about your family, history, or past love life, but try not to divulge too many secrets so that you can still maintain the mysterious effect in the relationship. This will not only leave him or her interested but curious to know more about you as well. You can give him subtle hint that entice him to learn more. Just bare in mind that you do need to be fair and eventually reveal more about yourelf.
Learning about your partner
Try to ask questions and learn more about the person as well. Be truly interested in everything that the person has to say and commit yourself to giving them some attention. There should always be a balance when moving through the dating world, so keeping your hard-to-get antics in balance will definitely make things lighter but exciting as well. As long as the person knows you care, you should be good to go.The best relationship behavior of all? It’s being balanced when it comes to your affections and attention towards your beau. Learning how to balance your affections for your partner will enable you to keep the relationship alive and the passion fire burning for years. And knowing how to keep yourself from being too available and at the same time regularly showing concern for your partner will not only prove how much you care for him or her but also remind your partner of how important your presence, love, and attention are to him or her as well.
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