Changing times, changing attitudes. It seems that nothing that can be seen with the eye is real anymore. You meet this great guy and he turns out to be married. It isn’t that you didn’t ask him if he was married, but you assume that if he courts you or dates you then he shouldn’t have strings attached. If you’re the type of girl who is okay or fine with these types of relationships, then finding out that he’s married would not be a problem. But if your one of the normal girls who just wants to have a guy all for herself, these are some tips on finding out if the guys married and spare you a world of pain:
You never get to see his house
See how often the two of you spend time at your place versus his. If you’ve been dating for a couple of weeks and you haven’t seen his place, that may be a sign that you can’t see it because his wife’s there. This may be most noticeable if he’s slept at your place a couple of times or if he picks you up from work and grabs dinner and decides to go intimate at your place. Either he lives in his car or at the nearest homeless shelter, which you think is highly unlikely. Chances are, he’s hiding another woman in that house - his wife!
He acts weird on the phone
If you have his cell phone number but either he doesn’t answer it quickly or just doesn’t answer it at all, then you should probably confront him about that. If you call him up just to say I love you or good morning and he just doesn’t reply that quickly or tells you that his going to call you back, you should start thinking what’s wrong. Chances are he’s with his wife at the time and can’t talk or he’ll get caught. Be especially leery if he keeps changing his numbers, tells you that he doesn’t have a number, or says his office doesn’t give up it’s numbers.
Your dates are always held in secret
If he asks you on dates which are outside the city limit or places where there are no people, then you may want to be suspicious. If you think he’s sweet because he wants to have you all for himself or think that he just wants to date you in a special place, then you have definitely a surprise just waiting to happen. If the guy doesn’t want to be seen with you in public places, either he thinks that you’re only beautiful in his eyes because you’re so ugly or he doesn’t want others to know you’re going out and seeing each other. Either way, it’s a good reason to be cautious in the relationship.
You date at weird times
See if the only time you go out on dates is in the middle of the night or only during weekends or office hours. Ask him why can’t you go out at 8 or 9 pm. If he tells you it’s just not possible, then you need to see it as a red flag. The reason why he does it is because he doesn’t want to be seen with you. The only possible time he could spend with you is when her wife thinks that he’s at work or way on the weekends for meetings. If that’s the case, then you are most definitely dating a married man.
The left over ring mark
The biggest sign of all is if you see a bright line on their fingers where married people place their rings. This bright line on the finger disappears only when the ring has not been placed on the finger for a long time. The skin tone blends with its surroundings when it has been exposed or when a ring has not been placed on the finger. The bright line means he’s hiding something from you and that maybe a wedding ring. If you ask him and he just can’t answer or just dismisses your question it’s time to start thinking, he just might have 4 kids and a wife waiting for him at home.
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