Online dating is everywhere now, and people are flocking to the internet to find “the one” each and every day. The problem though is that “the one” online might actually turn into number 4,964 whenever you meet in person. Thus finding an authentic person to date online, or at least a somewhat truthful one, can be quite the challenge. Here are some tips for helping you weed out the false faces on the web:
Matching the face with the profile
Before you even start talking to someone online, look at their profile and see if it matches the picture. If the guy says he’s a professional lifeguard on the beach but is pale as a ghost in his picture, then chances are that either the picture or the story is fake. That’s not to say that you can stereotype these people into different categories. If there’s a nerdy white guy who claims to be a rapper, give him the benefit of the doubt. Just use proper judgment and analyze a person’s profile.
Talking to the date
Be sure that you understand enough from a person’s conversation to tell if the information he provides is real. Do a little investigation by asking questions multiple times throughout the conversation to see if he changes his mind. The key to spotting a good liar is persistence. If you stay on his case long enough, he’ll eventually crack. Try things like, “What did you say you did for a living again?” or ask about specific details about his hobby. You’ll catch him in a lie eventually.
Figuring out the date’s intentions
Delay your date of meeting to test his interest in you. Try postponing your first date to give more room for conversation. If he’s just looking for sex (and a lot of them are), he won’t be willing to wait long. Tell him you’re sick or you have to go out of town and see if he still talks to you. If he does, then his intentions are probably genuine.
Setting a meeting to test him
When you finally schedule a meeting, go someplace where there won’t be many distractions. You want to be able to completely focus on getting behind the person’s lies (if any). Pick a small coffee shop or a quiet Italian restaurant where you can easily talk together. If you want to test if he’s a “player”, you can try going to a place where the women dress in revealing clothes. This might not be the best idea for a first date, but it all depends on what you’re trying to figure out.
Analyzing him on the date
The face to face date is the true test because you can see if his personality matches your past conversations. Re-ask those same questions you had earlier and see if he still responds the same. Look for any signs of hesitation as they could be signs of lying. If he holds true to everything with honest eyes, then chance are he’s a keeper. Believe it or not, there are authentic people out there online. You just have to do the investigating to find them.
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