Sometimes it is difficult to decipher the hidden meaning behind a woman’s words. If you’re ever going to have a successful relationship then it’s absolutely crucial that you learn to read her mind – or at least understand that she seldom means what she says to you.
“I Don’t Want To Ruin Our Friendship”
When a woman tells you that she doesn’t want to ruin your friendship she is really saying, “I am not attracted to you in a romantic way.” If she had romantic feelings for you, she would not mind risking the friendship (because it could be worth the risk). She uses this excuse because she probably does genuinely care about your friendship and she does not want to hurt your feelings. Don’t try to woo her and don’t try to convince her that it won’t ruin your friendship, just take it as a compliment that she’s trying to let you down easy.
“I’m fine…”
When she says, “I’m fine…” she really means, “I am extremely pissed off.” Once in a while she will really mean that she is fine but you are smart enough to know the difference in the tone of her voice. At this point you should try to console her and get to the bottom of her distress because it’s probably because of something that you have done. If you just shrug it off like she is okay then she is going to get increasingly angry with you as time goes on, and eventually she’s going to snap. Her mood will not improve if you let it go, try to fix it!
“Sure…Go Ahead”
Any man that has ever had a girlfriend knows that when she says this line she really means, “You won’t go (or do whatever it is you want to do) if you know what’s good for you.” Chances are that your woman will look away and say these words behind clenched teeth, which is a sure sign that she isn’t happy about what you’re doing. She is expecting you to realize that she doesn’t want you to leave. As soon as you walk out that door she is going to start fuming and by the time you talk to her again she’s going to be furious.
“It’s your choice, do what you want”
Needless to say, it is not your choice and you should not do what you want (unless you want to have a huge fight). She is really saying, “I think we both know what choice you should make.” She is giving you the benefit of the doubt that you will make the right choice, but you probably won’t if you do what you want to do. If this is a serious decision that is going to affect your life then you should make the decision, but if it’s a petty issue then you should probably try to make your woman happy.
“Do you really want to go to ______?”
If she asks you if you really want to do something she is really saying, “I really don’t want to do this but I don’t want to seem controlling.” She might just not be in the mood to go or maybe she has a different reason, but she is hoping that you will decide that you don’t want to go either. If you’re dying to go then just tell her that you’d really like to go, and hopefully she will warm up once she’s there.
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