Getting that good first impression isn't an easy task. A lot of dates go to disaster because of initial impressions one person gets to have the moment they meet their dates. Some of them are kind enough to finish the date, some of them would find an excuse to leave, and sometimes -- the first moment they see their date -- they leave. Other say -- looks don't matter. We can agree with that, if you're used to not taking baths regularly or you don't shave or wash your face that much -- do you think your date wouldn't mind? You'll see the subtle reaction in them once you see their eyes change on how they look at you. You wouldn't want that to happen, right?
First impression clothing
Let’s start with the basics – clothing. It may be a struggle for you to wear that simple coat or dress, but sometimes you have to dress to impress -- depending on the style of the date. Usually, dates happen in fine dining restaurants or even in a carnival. Just be cautious on the season or let’s say – weather forecast. It’s nice to dress in style and in the appropriate time. There are people who wanted to show off their new jackets and wear them up in an incredibly humid day. Others would wear “too short” or “too long” clothes – It’s either they end up sweating like a pig or freezing like a fish in the freezer. Be cautious about what to wear in the place you’re going. Fine dining? Wear something slightly formal. Going hiking in a park? Make sure you have the appropriate jackets and not the usual windbreakers. Carnivals? Wear something that will make you feel comfortable while riding that roller coaster or bump cars.
Smelling good from the start
Hygiene. People sometimes – yes, sometimes – forget this. You don’t have to change your hairstyle, just get a decent haircut. Trim your nails. Makes sure you had a clean shave or your skin’s silky soft. Take a good bath and smell clean. Looking and smelling clean gives someone an impression that you can take care of yourself and at the same time you can take good care of the other. You wouldn’t want him/her to see your dirty fingernails while eating steak, right? Much worse, you wouldn’t want the other person to smell that you haven’t brushed your teeth. Lastly, don’t do anything too much – not too much makeup, hair gel, perfume and cologne. Just be spic and span.
Making your body and words give a good impression
Remember when you’re in your job interview or when you recite in class? Think about that on a date. Tone of voice, body language and the questions you ask should be appropriate. You’re on a date, so you should adjust a bit and at times – go beyond your comfort zone. Be careful on how you react with things and be ready with the unexpected. Some dates (mostly in carnivals or malls) would involve going to do things that maybe you won’t normally do. Stay alert, and genuinely show enthusiasm towards your date. In conversations – to keep it flowing, have some prepared standard questions to prevent sudden silence.
Focusing on first impression body language
Body language--be cautious with this. This shows how open you are to the other person, or your attention is with him/her. Always keep eye contact in mind. Your date will notice if you’re not paying attention by seeing you do something else or watching you look at another thing or another person! Be careful about how you sit or even the way you let your hands move. Closed arms show usually a sign of shutting yourself from the other person. Leaning a bit closer shows a bit of an aggression – people sometimes like it, but not ALL the time. You don’t want to scare them off, do you?Be yourself. You don’t need to transform to someone to impress people. You just have to show an “enhanced” you. Not too much of your video game addict or shopaholic self, but what you are in terms of dealing with other people.
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