Guys, understanding women and their sexual desires can sometimes be the biggest problem you have. Women are very sense and emotion oriented creatures. This is the first thing you need to understand. So, if she is not getting off when you are pulling every trick out of the book, it may not be you or you may not have spent enough time in a particular area. So, here is a brief guide to get her and you on your way.
Relieve her stress before sex
Just like you, if a woman is stressed, she may find it much harder to orgasm. This doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to, just that she can’t. In order to help her along, you may try giving her a good old-fashioned rub down. Not only does this perk her touch sensation (preparing her for the main show), but it will also relieve some of the built up tension (making your job easier).
Go slowly during oral
Take your time with her. Don’t make her feel as though you are only looking for the big “O”. Remember that half the fun for a woman is the ride to get there. Also, don’t only stimulate her clit and vagina. This is a pit fall for most men. Learn to use your mouth in other ways. Create an element of anticipation by avoiding her clit and vagina all together. Kiss her entire body, working your way to her pelvic area. For the final blow, kiss her inner thighs. Get as close as you can without actual contact with the clit or vagina. Make her want it.
How to stimulate her different parts
You should also understand that specifically with oral sex, there are two basic types of orgasm a woman will have. First is the “clit orgasm”. This type is far less intense, but will still get the job done. Usually “clit orgasms” are short bursts or a quick release. They are often good for foreplay and making sure you have a wet path to slide right into. Last is the “vaginal orgasm”. This type is much stronger than the later. These are usually great for a full release. Now, what you should hope to achieve is the combination. For this, you will want to stimulate both. These can be “earth-shattering” orgasms when done right. Understand that there are no rules against using any and all resources available to you. This means fingers, toys, whatever it takes to get the job done and done right.
Listen to your partner
Finally, listen to her and her body. Both will let you know when you are doing a good job. Also, try new things. Use her body as your own personal playground. I promise that she will tell you if she doesn’t like something. Understand that all women are different. While two women may like the same pair of shows. That doesn’t mean that they will like the same oral sex techniques. So, just because a previous lover didn’t appreciate your use of excessive tongue doesn’t mean that your current lover won’t. So, have fun with your playtime.
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