There are many ways to spice up your love life and some ways are not for the faint hearted. If you find yourself in the sexually liberated realm of complete open mindedness and you love your reflection in the mirror, you are among the lucky ones who truly enjoy their bodies without any restraint.
Talk about this ahead of time
Many people find it extremely arousing to watch their partners please themselves sexually. In fact, a lot of people have asked their partners to do this for them only to be turned down and having to resort to peepholes and hidden video cameras. This is not an ideal situation and with the video camera solution you might just find out some things that could rather have stayed unknown. It is important that both you and your partner are completely comfortable with this before just throwing off the covers and ta-daa! A good chat about the whole thing will probably be a better idea.
Explain why you want to jerk it in front of the partner
Sit your partner down one day and explain to them that it is not for sordid reasons you want to indulge in this naughty little pleasure of being watched as you pleasure yourself. It is important for your partner to know that it is an extremely natural and beautiful thing for you and you would like nothing more than for them to witness the joy you bring yourself. And only if and when they agree to it, should you take that step. It is probably best not to proceed right there and then but to make a date, so to speak, for the actual event.
Get the mood right
When the time has come and you both are ready for the next step it can be a good idea to create a nice ambience in the room with some candles and dim lighting but this is not required. At first there might be some trepidation because masturbation has always been a private affair, one usually done alone, behind closed doors. The partner being on the receiving end of this little “show” might also be a bit nervous for the very same reasons. Now is the time to start some tender kissing to ease them into the situation. Your partner should feel as part of this as you do, even if he or she is initially just there to watch. Keep in mind that this is just a small part of the action that is to come and even though you will be doing the pleasuring yourself, it is merely a stepping stone to a more mutual affair later on.
Look at the partner
While you are masturbating make sure to make eye contact with your partner. This is to make sure he or she knows that you are absolutely including him or her in this endeavor. You can both partake in some dirty talking if you’re into that sort of thing but it will definitely enhance the experience for both. And even though the partner is just watching, you can both be a part of a mutually arousing fantasy that is playing out in front of you. It is all about having fun, really. Enjoy!
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