Being an attentive lover is good, being interested in your boyfriend's life is also good, but when does loving become smothering? Googling his name, constantly looking at his Facebook, naming your future-children, feeling jealous when he pays attention to other girls, calling 20 times a day (and still not having enough) ? these may be simple tokens of your affection but it can be mistaken for crazy behavior. When a woman gets struck by cupid's arrow, she often acts out of character. Sometimes feelings get the best of us, so it's important to consciously avoid certain habits that cross the line between lover and stalker.
You Don't Need To Be In Contact 24/7
Despite the fact that you might want to talk to your man all the time, this will get old to him really fast. Sending the occasional cute text when he is not with you or an e-mail when he is at work is okay. However, constantly calling or texting him when he is out with his friends will not only annoy him, but it will also embarass him. You want to be unable to get enough of you and he is unable to miss you if you don't leave him alone.
Don't Act Out of Jealousy
Sometimes it is intimidating if your boyfriend has a close female friend or coworker but you must not jump to irrational conclusions. Unless he has given you a reason to question his integrity then give him the benefit of the doubt that he isn't doing anything that would hurt you. If you act like you're jealous and suspicious he is going to catch on, and he won't find that attractive. It will make you look unreasonable and insecure. Keeping your cool in a situation that might seem threatening to you will show him that you're confident and you trust him.
Don't Check Up On Him
No matter how tempting it might be to search through his phone or surf through the history on his computer, do not go there. He will think that this behavior is crazy and he will also feel that you're invading his privacy. Driving to check where he is, or cross-checking his whereabouts through his friends will turn him off. Try to remember that you are his girlfriend, not his babysitter.
Respect His Independence
Men like to be taken care of but they also need to have a sense of independence. The two of you are a couple but you still need to respect his individuality. Don't get angry if he does not have the same interests as you, and allow him to engage in activities that he enjoys (even if you don't). You can take him with you to experience activities that you enjoy and vise versa, but it's okay to have separate interests. Don't try to mold him into what you want him to be because if you cause him lose his sense of self then he will resent you. Also, do not try to be BFFs with his friends. It's great to be friendly and even form relationships with his friends but you also need to have your own friends and allow him to feel like he has friends that are separate from your relationship.
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