Guys may not realize how scary anal sex can be to women. If the mood isn’t right and the preparation isn’t there, it can hurt – a lot! However, many women like the idea of giving their men a new area to explore, so they open up their minds to such a concept. If you are one of those women, then congratulations. You’ve already taken the first step. Here are a few more to take along the way so that you might have a pleasant anal experience after all.
Get good lube
This is vital to fun anal. Your vagina makes its own lube as you get horny, so by the time sex hits, you’re slippery and ready to go. Your butt hole doesn’t work that way. It needs a little help to get things in and happy. So, buying some good lube is a great way to start your anal journey. You can use just about any lube you want, but there are lubricants out there that are specifically designed for anal sex. These are a bit thicker than their vaginal counter parts so they last longer and provide a better coating. Go to a local sex shop and you should be able to find some. It won’t be on the shelf at Wal-Mart.
Practice anal sex
This might sound weird, but you can in fact practice this ahead of time so that you are relaxed and ready to go when the time comes. Buy a set of butt plugs that increase in size. The last one should be right around the size of your partner’s dick. Take the lube and the smallest toy and work them into your butt hole. Once you are relaxed and comfortable with that one, you can move up to something bigger and progress accordingly. Though your ass hole may not get bigger, by practicing like this you will be able to relax more and take the penis more easily.
Learn to relax
The first thing your butt hole is going to want to do is tense up. You have to learn how to control that and relax it, almost like you were getting ready to take a big poop. It’s gross, I know, but that’s about how it works out. Rather than letting something out, you’re letting it in. Try feeling on different parts of your body so that you’re so horny that you forget about the pain. Then you’ll be able to take the action a lot easier.
Make sure there’s nothing in there…
This is another gross area that needs to be addressed. Take a dump before you have anal sex. The last thing you want to happen is a big poop in the middle of fun. That’s a quick way to run a night. If you can, take a piece of toilet paper on your finger and clean out around the hole afterwards just to be on the safe side. If you’re all cleared out, you should be good to go.
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andThenSum / 32 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Yes, the author is correct on many levels. Being in the mood is so important to pleasurable anal sex as well as being prepared and knowledgeable. When you're not it obviously leads to a terrible experience. Anal sex was this huge taboo for me. My first time was undeniably the worse possible case scenario. We were inexperienced. He was pushy. I was uncomfortable. Fortunately for me, all hope was not lost. My current boyfriend rocks. We did a bit more research together and explored what works best for us. The biggest help was this book I've recommended to all of my friends that are curious - Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy. It's thoughtful, thorough and offers great tips. But most of all, find the right partner who is caring, supportive and understanding!
andThenSum / 32 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Yes, the author is correct on many levels. Being in the mood is so important to pleasurable anal sex as well as being prepared and knowledgeable. When you're not it obviously leads to a terrible experience. Anal sex was this huge taboo for me. My first time was undeniably the worse possible case scenario. We were inexperienced. He was pushy. I was uncomfortable. Fortunately for me, all hope was not lost. My current boyfriend rocks. We did a bit more research together and explored what works best for us. The biggest help was this book I've recommended to all of my friends that are curious - Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy. It's thoughtful, thorough and offers great tips. But most of all, find the right partner who is caring, supportive and understanding!
andThenSum / 32 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Yes, the author is correct on many levels. Being in the mood is so important to pleasurable anal sex as well as being prepared and knowledgeable. When you're not it obviously leads to a terrible experience. Anal sex was this huge taboo for me. My first time was undeniably the worse possible case scenario. We were inexperienced. He was pushy. I was uncomfortable. Fortunately for me, all hope was not lost. My current boyfriend rocks. We did a bit more research together and explored what works best for us. The biggest help was this book I've recommended to all of my friends that are curious - Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy. It's thoughtful, thorough and offers great tips. But most of all, find the right partner who is caring, supportive and understanding!
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