I'm just 16 f and from a very conservative family. I get attracted to every other guy i see and i get aroused, i also cant get an orgasm by masturbating frequently and so this arousal is frustrating and i feel bad about getting aroused so frequently.
Is it common for a girl of my age to be aroused so frequently or do i have a higher sex drive?
How can i reduce the arousal?
Pls help.
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Jenny / Woman / Likes Men / Single
It is perfectly normal for a girl your age to become aroused and frequently. It is very common among teenagers as your hormones are racing and you are either beggining or in the middle of your pubescent years. You can reduce the arousal by acting on it by masturbating or try to be more active and/or keep busy to release that anxiety. Going to the gym or sports are a great way to release tension. Although this is perfectly normal, if these thoughts consume you and interfere in your daily life, then you should seek help. Otherwise, do not feel bad for having these thoughts, it's part of nature :)
Booboo / Woman / Likes Men / Single
If conservative is a code word for religious, that's God's little joke. It's a huge conflict. At 16 you are in prime baby making years from a bioligical standpoint. Your desire was made to get you to make babies at 16 because you would die at 40. Times change, but you are told you should finish school, figure out who you are, told masterbation is a sin, and you shouldn't do it (so you might feel guilty) but you should not have sex until you are married and only in the marriage, (but your body wants sex NOW) but you should get married later so you are grown up enough so you can make a good choice in life partner (remember you are supposed to stay with that person for the next 70 years, and in some organizations stay with that person for eternity!) but make the right choice of life partner at 20? Good luck with that.
>common? Probably, but no one really talks about it do they.
Keep masterbating. Use this time in your life to figure out what you like and what works for you. Explore yourself. Let that take years if necessary because if you can figure out your body, and your sexual responses and YOUR preferences, when you do add a sexual partner, you are way ahead of the game. Many women never figure out what turns them on, because of family and religious pressures, so they never learn what makes them feel good or what makes them come. That's a waste. Women can be proud, strong, independant, intelligent, sexy, hard, soft, good at sports, good at science, good mothers, good businesswomen, explorers, judges, warriors... or not. It should be your choice.
Focus on who you want to become, not just your baby making capabilities.
If conservative is not a code word for religious, ignore everything I just said.
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