After months of being a member on a relationship website and after almost giving up hope countless times, you have finally come across a person that you are really interested in getting to know. You reviewed so many profiles and not a single one seemed to match what you were looking for until now. Because it took so long to even find someone that you want to talk to, you haven’t even thought of where to begin in initiating it. You don’t want to pass up the opportunity and certainly don’t want someone else to find him or her before you get the chance kick off your first bit of communication. Here is how to respond your new love interest (hopefully).
Planning your reply ahead of time
Write a rough draft. Don’t just whip up a quick note and send it along without a second thought. The moment you click “send,” chances are you will think of a million things that you wish you said… or didn’t say. You also don’t want to make any accidental grammatical errors because there is an ample chance that your first impression will be your only impression.
Reading the ad thoroughly for clues
Analyze the person’s ad and explain your way around their words. Make a point to explain exactly why you guys would be a good match and why you genuinely believe that you would get along. If you notice that he or she mentioned some interests that are akin to some of yours, point it out! Some people are specifically looking for people who are also art buffs, snowboarders/skiers, sports-fanatics, interested in the same kind of music, etc. If they really seem passionate about something and you can relate, don’t neglect that! It can only work toward your advantage.
Writing the reply
Make it personal. No one wants to put themselves out on the line (and placing a personal ad is doing just that), only to receive a generic response. People can tell when they’ve gotten a “copied and pasted” letter or a “personalized” letter. Each one of your responses should come from the heart and need to be written individually. You will better your chances of getting a positive reply if they can see that you were genuine and took the time to express your interest. If you don’t have the time to write out a letter for each person that you wish respond to, then the least you could do is take the time to create an outline that you can continuously personalize as you find people. Another reason why you should write a new letter every time you respond to someone’s ad is because of your success rate. If you wrote an ad that didn’t get a response and then keep using the same one on other people, chances are that your reply wasn’t too impressive and needs some work.
What not to forget in your reply
Do NOT forget to include a picture. You were already able to see his or her picture so the only fair thing to do would be to include your own as well. Also, don’t lie about your age. If things go well and you end up getting serious, the truth will eventually be told.
Keeping the reply interesting
Write more than a one-liner like “Hi, I think we should chat,” or “Take a look at my profile and tell me what you think.” First, tell him or her some specifics. Tell why you are looking for someone over the internet. Explain the type of woman or man that you are looking for and then explain why you think they are a good fit. Mention that you would really like to get to know them and to let you know if they would like to start chatting! Don’t say too much but say enough to impress!Taking the time write a good response to a personal ad will mean your success. If you aren’t genuine and don’t put any effort into your words, don’t expect to get much of a response. If you are sincere, polite and most importantly, real, this could be your next relationship! Good luck!
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