With the new year comes a ton of new chances. New people, new jobs, new goals - the slate gets wiped clean almost at this time of year. If you have been leading the same single life for face too many New Years, now is the time to come up with your dating New Year’s resolutions. Take a minute to read through the ones suggested below and pick the ones that apply to you. Then create ones from them. This year is going to be your year.
Resolution 1: Quit Being Picky
This resolution reigns true for a lot of people out there. In our mind, we all aim to find that perfect person - that soul mate that is supposed to be lurking in the shadows. No matter how much we try though, people are always flawed. This New Year’s Day, make it a point to start dating new and random people, perhaps those who fit none of your standards at all. By opening yourself up like that, you can allow for a greater success rate because you aren’t limiting your selections. Opposites attract, right?
Resolution 2: Start Dating More Often
Another thing that might have been holding back your success is how often you date. There’s no way to find success in dating if you do no put yourself out there. Put down the computer for a second and get with the program. Go out there! I cannot make it any easier for you. Go to the bars, clubs, grocery stores, gyms - wherever you are going to find people. Then just start dating.
Resolution 3: Start Building Some Self Confidence
If you don’t know this already, you’re awesome. If you weren’t awesome before, you are now because you’re reading this. Everybody loves dating someone with self confidence, and low self esteem is considered a big turn off. If you aren’t even sure of yourself, why should someone else be? Granted, there is a big difference between cockiness and confidence. You need to understand that difference because cockiness is a turn off. Don’t boast. Just know that you are a good person.
Resolution 4: Open Yourself Up
You have to quit being closed off to people and let somebody in for a change. A lot of times people put up a wall as a defense mechanism, assuming the right person can break it down. If you start with a wall, you end up with a lonely heart. Get ready to let someone in, even if you get hurt because of it. Amidst the pain, you will find someone to heal you. Promise.
Resolution 5: Find Out Who You Are
This one is sort of vague, but it needs to be addressed. Do you know who you are as a person, or who you want to be? So many people go searching for someone to love and find out that they don’t even love themselves. Who are you really? When you figure out what you want out of your own life, it’ll be much easier to start a life with someone else.
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