Swinging got its start in the United States in affluent neighborhoods during the 1950s, although the first publicly acknowledged organization for the lifestyle wasn’t formed for more than a decade and the culture didn’t enjoy its heyday and highest degree of public acceptance until the 1970s. Although people who participate in the lifestyle tend to be less open it than they were 40 years ago, the swinging culture is still alive and well both here and abroad.
Know how to swing
First you need to thoroughly familiarize yourself with swing culture. Despite the obvious sexual component of the lifestyle, there are things that are considered both appropriate and taboo. Online research is an ideal way to learn more about the lifestyle, as are magazines and newspapers that cater to the culture. There are also different expectations, protocols and practices among clubs, so if you plan to join a particular one you’ll need to educate yourself about what those are. Also, be aware that membership in established swinging clubs is usually quite expensive, so you’ll have to view it as an investment just like you would for any other pleasurable activity you might enjoy.
Rules of sex in swinging
That said, the “Golden Rule” of swinging is that everyone in the community or club maintains the right to refuse a partner at any time. Additionally, you need to be aware of the difference between the two types of swinging and decide which is right for you. “Closed swinging” refers to sex in which partners switch but have sex in private, whereas “open swinging” refers to sex in which partners switch but have sex in front of each other. Couples don’t have to commit to a particular choice, although it helps to decide beforehand if their interest lies more in having sex with another person or seeing their partner have sex with another person. Further, “soft swinging” and “hard swinging” refer to the nature and degree of switching partners.
How to be a swinging couple
Although individuals are admitted to swinging clubs, it’s far more common for established couples (both married and not) to join them. Most people involved in the lifestyle suggest that the couple have a strong bond and be secure in their relationship. Communication is an important element for any couple, but that’s especially true of those who plan to start swinging. If both parties aren’t completely on board and in agreement, your swinging dreams could turn into nightmares instead of fantasies you live out.
Get some people to swing with
You have several options if you’ve decided to start swinging. Finding a club and/or established swinging events is most easily accomplished via the Internet and publications related to the culture. Additionally, there are private parties, although invitations to these are generally issued by word of mouth so it’s often difficult to “break in” if you’re not already recognized as part of the culture from your appearance at organized events that are better publicized. Safe sex is a requirement for those participating in the lifestyle, so you need to ensure that you are disease free and that you will remain that way.
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