Fantasies are normal, and any hot blooded man or woman fantasizes. For women it is generally fantasies about movie stars, sportsmen, and if they are slightly adventurous, about their co-workers. But what about women who fantasize about their partner’s co-workers? Believe it or not, this is a pretty common trend nowadays. Here are some tips you can follow if you want to tell your man that you fantasize about his co-worker:
Getting him to admit his fantasies first
Men fantasize a lot. They are the visual sex. They love to watch porn, see nude pictures of women and think about all they want to do. They are pretty straightforward about it too. For them sex is time with partner, masturbation is time with self. In their “time with self” they can visualize anything, women who are not their wives or girlfriends, their wives and girlfriends doing stuff that is forbidden, men, pets, violence and even quite horrible icky stuff. Well, that is your opening. You need to get your man to talk about his fantasies. Put yourself in a shock-proof mood. You never know what he will come out with! He may be fantasizing about someone or something that you think is totally forbidden! Remind yourself that fantasies are not stuff that normally gets enacted in real life. Many women fantasize about rape and violence, but they do not want that to happen to them in real life! Once he has told you his fantasy, you could tell him yours.
The more direct approach to telling him about the co-worker
Well, if you find it difficult to tell him this you could try a more creative way. If he is fantasizing about another woman you could indulge in a bit of role playing. You could pretend to be the object of his fantasies and reciprocally you could ask him to play the role of his co-worker. He will definitely get the message.
Using your dreams as an introduction about your fantasies
Another way you could tell him would be in the morning, when you both are up and fixing breakfast. You could just look surprised and tell him casually, “You know, I had this really weird dream last night, I dreamt that your co-worker and I …” etc. There, it is out in the open!
Fantasizing in the middle of sex
Of course, if you are in bed with your partner, and in the middle of the sex act, you start fantasizing about his co-worker, you do need to re-evaluate your relationship. If you are okay with it, and still want to carry one with your partner, you could blurt out his co-worker’s name in the throes of passion. That‘s not recommended, but it is another way to let your partner know you have the hots for his colleague. However, it may shake him up totally and awaken the jealous primitive man in him.
Confessing your fantasy
If you are fantasizing about his co-worker and want to keep your relationship going, you need to carefully word your confession. Most men come with very well developed territorial sense and they do not like others trespassing in their territory, even in dreams. If your relationship is going through trouble, this may just turn out to be a relationship breaker. Do not say something stupid like he reminds you of a Hollywood hunk or that you feel he is hung like a porn star. Your best bet would be to show confusion and surprise at this fantasy.
You can apply these techniques for any of your fantasies. Just remember to approach each situation with caution and sincerity. Good luck!
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