How To Tell Your Parents You're Dating An Older Guy

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Parents may not be the easiest people to talk to, especially when you want them to know that you’re dating an older guy. No matter how much the times have changed, there are still some parents out there who are too conservative to understand that nowadays, when it comes to dating, everyone is simply fair game.  So how do you break out the news to your parents that you’re going out with an older guy without raising World War III or a heart failure? Here are some tips to help you along the way:
Figuring out what your parents think
Before setting out on a mission of telling your parents what the real score is between you and that irresistible older guy that you’re so into lately, it is good to know your parents’ stand on this kind of matter. Will they be able to accept it “if” you got involved in this kind of relationship?  Or are they going to freak out about the whole situation?The best way to get this kind of information is to get it directly from them. How? Go “fishing. Try to look for an opportunity to ask them the “what if” questions that happen to pertain to your current situation.  Just remember to appear casual when asking these questions. You don’t want to let your parents become suspicious if they noticed that you looked nervous asking them something.Another way to “fish” for info is to bring up news about some girl dating an older guy. You can gauge your parents reaction from that. And guess what--you don’t actually have to make up stories. There are a lot of celebrities who are doing the same thing that you can ask your parents’ opinion of. Just go about it as casual as you can get.
Finding out what your parents like
You’ll want to find out what your parents like in a guy. Since this is a rather safe topic that you can naturally discuss with your parents, getting this information will be easy. Use this info to your advantage. Try to think of endearing qualities about your guy that would make your parents like him, too. Make a list of those qualities and even his achievements, be it in his career, sports, causes, etc. You can tell them all his good qualities and try to impress them with his achievements in life so far. You can also come with a middle ground for your parents and the older guy that you’re dating. Think of things that both parties have in common and make sure to mention them when you finally tell your parents that you’re dating this guy. 
Making sure the guy is worth the hassle
Maybe you really like this guy, despite the huge age difference. And maybe that pushed you into wanting to let your parents know that you’re dating this wonderful guy, and probably you want them to meet him someday. But before telling your parents about him, it would be better to make sure that this guy also feels the same way about you. Make sure that he’s worth it. Let him know about what you’re going to do and tell him that you would want him to meet your parents someday. 
Picking the time to tell them
There is a right time for everything—especially when telling your parents that the guy you’re currently dating is a lot older than you. Pick a time when they’re in a good mood and choose a perfect setting. Your house may be fine, but if you can, try to spill the beans in a public but quiet place such as coffee shops, restaurants, etc. This way you and your parents are on neutral ground, unlike when you’re at their house. This will also prevent them from reacting violently if they don’t like what you’re going to tell them. You will then have more time to explain and convince them to let you date an older guy.
The key to a successful reveal
When the big day arrives, remember that sincerity is key. Your parents may not like the idea at first--that’s to be expected actually. But if you will show them and tell them that you are determined to date this guy and you really like him, chances are, they will approve of him and allow you to date him, despite his age. Tell them calmly what they need to know about him and give them reasons to like him. Let them know that you are mature enough to handle this kind of relationship. Hear out what they have to say and respect their opinions, whether they would let you date him still or not. Remember that good and sincere communication can do wonders regardless of what the situation is.

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