I recently watched an episode of a popular television show in which a teen girl at a high school’s Celibacy Club meeting said to the male members congregated for the event, “You want to know a dirty little secret they [the female members] don’t want you to know? Girls want sex just as much as guys do.” While the line was played for shock value, there is more than a nugget of truth in the character’s statement – whether we’re talking about teen girls or adult women.
The Science of Sex
From a scientific standpoint, it is true that women tend to have slightly lower sex drives than men and think about doing the deed less often than their male counterparts. But despite these physiological differences, women in general still have very active libidos and do, in point of fact, enjoy intercourse – often just as much as (if not more than) men. Certainly if you were to conduct a Gallup poll regarding how women feel about sex, you would get opinions and results just as diverse as if you asked the general public about how pleased they are with the president or how they like their eggs prepared at breakfast. But this does not discount the fact that women are sexual beings in their own right who both enjoy and crave sexual contact.
Mitigating Factors
How a woman personally feels about sex can be affected by an almost endless stream of factors, including her libido, her hormones, her previous experiences, how tired she is, how she feels about her body, etc. However, there are some generalizations regarding women’s attitudes toward and reactions to sex that have merit. For instance, it is true that for women sex is often just as much of an emotional act as it is a physical one. Women are often looking for more than physical contact during love making and are interested in making an emotional connection on some level as well.
The Power Point
In addition, women have known since the dawn of time that sex is a powerful tool in their arsenal. They often feel a real sense of power in knowing that men find them attractive and desirable, and they are aware that they can use that knowledge to their advantage. Taking advantage of this power can take many forms. For instance, women can use sex to manipulate and or control men, but they can just as easily use that power to increase the pleasure that men experience during sex by taking a dominant role. Further, women sometimes use sex to increase their own feelings of attractiveness and sexiness.
Again, there is no single, definitive answer to the question as to how women feel about sex because women, like men, are incredibly diverse creatures with radically varied life experiences, beliefs, mores, etc. Recognizing this to be fact and exploring how a particular woman – the one in whom you’re interested – feels about sex can improve your sexual relationship with one another.
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Christopher6 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
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