So I've been sexually active for a while now, and I've noticed something that has me very worried. I know for a fact that I'm easily aroused. I do feel pleasure from masturbation, when my boyfriend plays with me, and when he rubs against me. So I know I can feel stuff. Problem is when it leads to actual intercourse where he's inside me, I don't really feel it. I can feel the motion, him pulling in and out, and I can feel the pressure of him being in there. But there isn't any pleasure to follow it. I want to know if there's something wrong with me, or if I need to go see a doctor. I think it is something I need to fix since it makes my boy feel bad when I don't get off from sex. Any suggestions?
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GG / 32 / Woman / Likes Women / Married
It could just be that you need to try some different positions to get angles right to stimulate those all important spots.
Aloso it could be something as silly as not being fully relaxed or certain anti-depressant meds can inhibit orgasm.
My best advice is to speak with your bf and just let him know its not HIM but something that you both need to work on.
AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I used to have this problem. I had it for a looooong time actually. Eventually my body just started to feel more than pressure...maybe we changed positions and I just didn't notice. Nevertheless, when I went to the doctor about it (because I actually wanted to enjoy fucking my husband....haha), she said to take Don Quai, Maca root, and Zinc to improve my libido and sensitivity. The Don Quai tasted like grass in a capsule, but it may have actually worked. I don't take it anymore because I randomly turned into a horn dog, but that's something to look into. They're all natural, over the counter, and relatively cheap to buy.
Ah, I think I know what got my juices going actually...I won't go into great detail for personal reasons, but I was masturbating one day and I eventually got a liquid to come out that I had never seen. Not standard discharge - more like the shit you see in squirting vids (no, I'm not a squirter). From that day on though, I could feel stuff. Maybe some sort of break through...I have no idea. Just giving you hope I guess.
In time, things always work themselves out. Don't get toooo frustrated, and get whatever pleasure you can. Vibrators to the rescue! :)
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