Okay guys this one is for you. You’ve already asked the girl out, and now you’re worried to death about making a good impression. The nerves are normal, but there are some ways that you can potentially lessen them. Here are some tips to help you get over your nerves once you’ve already asked a girl out.
Analyzing your nerves
Remember, if you are this far, she already said YES to the date! That means she interested enough to go and is nervous too. There, does that make you feel better? It should. Don’t think of it as nerves - think of it as anticipation. Be happy that she said yes and you are going to have a chance to showcase yourself!
Using your nerves for good
Put your nerves to good use by trying to think of a nice date. Now this will sound new age, but it works so try it. Picture your evening, from start to finish in your mind. Play it through a couple of times. Think of a few things you will say that will grab her attention, but also think of yourself as being a good listener. Remember don’t ask her yes or no questions; think of a couple of questions you can ask your date that will let her open up and talk about things she is interested in. Women generally love to talk so you will be off the hook to some degree!
Preparing right before the date
On the day of the date, go for a jog or go work out to take your mind off things. Give yourself some time to recuperate before the date. Take a shower, dress well and pick her up on time, or if you are meeting here there, arrive early. Remember to plan ahead, but don’t follow too tight of a schedule. She might have some ideas too! Women sometimes are late, so don’t panic and think she isn’t showing. Just relax and think through that successful date again if she is running late. Hopefully she has called, but if she is more than 15-20 minutes late, it is fine to call her and make certain you have the time/place right.
Some don’ts for the actual date
Don’t get too nervous and get drunk as a result. That will only lead to a very boring date. It ruins the date and it sucks for the woman, so just DON’T do it. Also don’t hit on her non stop in attempts to get her into bed with you. That too gets old. Treat her like a person, an individual, a HUMAN. Think of this as a getting to know you better time. You may end up not liking her! You might have a regular ritual you follow on your dates, but remember to not wear too much cologne, although if possible, wear some. You have probably already followed the basics - brushed teeth, shaved if you do, clean hair, etc., but those are certainly worth mentioning. Remember some physical exertion should take your edge off, make you more relaxed by evening, and at least appearing relaxed and cool is in your favor! Don’t take it overboard though guys. The man who is just too cool is dumped very quickly. Women want real men - real people. Try to be that.
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