If you are new to the United States, trying to learn all of our customs alone can be a daunting task, but then throw dating on top of it. Well, here are a few tips that may help make this a little less challenging.
Learn how laid back American dating is
First, be flexible. Don’t put so much pressure to remain rigid to your home-country social rules - relax. This isn’t an arranged marriage; it’s just a date. This is almost no topic you can’t talk about. However, I would avoid discussing sexual topics on the first date, if possible. Also, use this as a learning experience. Find out what does and doesn’t work for you as well as what you are comfortable with. Also, be flexible to time and activity. Chances are if you have been in the United States very long, you have learn that we Americans do not set a specific time to anything, for example, you may meet someone at noon-ish. So, don’t get too bent out of shape if your date is a couple of minutes late. Also, your date may come up with some activities that you have not had the opportunity to do because of strict cultural or social beliefs. Unless, this is something illegal or that you are ethically opposed to, be a little flexible on your activity as well. Who knows you may just have a great time?
Discuss your differences
Second, discuss your cultural, religious and social differences early. This will save a lot of headache later. You may even want to discuss with your date some of the key cultural differences between your home country and the U.S. prior to going on your first date. This may make it easier for you and your date to find something that is comfortable for both of your. Also, ask questions. Your potential partner should be more than happy to help your find where “East meets west” so to speak. We have some true confusing religious rules and social norms as well. This is confusing not only to you, but occasionally us as well. So, don’t be concerned if you don’t get it all on the first try. Some natural citizens have been trying for years and still don’t completely get it. Just keep learning and try.
Think about having to speak to Americans
Next, depending on how long you have been here, you may want to be cautious of the language barrier. This can be a source for tremendous embarrassment. However, your date should at least somewhat understand if you show that you are trying. Again, ask for help.
Don’t get your hopes up about US dating
Also, don’t expect too much. A first date is really more of a social occasion to meet and get to know someone. If the first time your go out with someone, it doesn’t work out, don’t be concern. There are many others out there. You should however, try to take note of which types of people you don’t necessarily feel a connection to. This show help with your elimination process in the future.Overall, the dating world is tough and it really doesn’t matter what country you are from. That’s honestly why some people get married. So, just try to put yourself out there and see what happens. You might just be pleasantly surprised.
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