well awhile ago my sex friend and i was talking and he seems like he is too shy to dirty talk....how can i make him feel comfortable to talk dirty to me? i mean i turned him on like big time but he still doesn't talk dirty, he said that he's shy...so what do i do?
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Adrian / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
....... sounds like you need to help him boost his confidence. take it slow, you can't just throw him into the deep end, so to speak.....
cleverKAL / 20 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Well vicki, in my experience thats a bit of a tricky subject. I'd say start of by kind of whispering something mildy dirty to him like : " Your cock feels great" or " I'm so warm for you " just something simple to get him comfortable. Then if he wont say anything, ask him how he feels inside you, and that might get things going. But always start off simple, then you can start getting dirtier until you find his limit. This is what I did with a few women, and it worked, and I found we had the same limits. Hope this helps Vicki.
12GAUGE · The first time I had sex w/girl who liked to talk dirty to me ti threw me for a loop. Kinda made me nervous. But she was very hot and we were fucking. In reflection I think she might have been a Dominant tho I had no experience in this type of thing at the time and I was 40+then. I love dirty talk now. I NEVER use words like penis or vagina cuz to me they just aren't sexy. If I hear too many words like that I WILL LOSE my boner. I was shy when I started out having sex but now I tell my lovers what I like mainly cuz I don't wanna waste any time having vanilla sex when I could be having freaky kinky sex. HUA!!
Noname1970 / 42 / Man / Likes Women / Single
What do you do? You tell him dirty talk turns you on (if that's the case) and you'd like for him to get over his inhibition; you ask him to try. If he does, great! If he doesn't, then you have to accept that and decide just how important the "dirty talk" is to you.
If you're asking about this because you're operating under the assumption that this is how it's "supposed" to be, you're wrong. It simply might not be his thing: some people like dirty talk and some don't. It means nothing more than that.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · that is very true. most guys who ARE into dirty talk would jump at the opportunity to talk about how they'd love to see ur lips wrapped their dicks. however, if not, they would say stuff like that they are embarrassed or shy.
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