I have a question about my sexuality and how I can find the right partners to satisfy me. I'm a twenty-something girl whose just gotten out of a serious relationship. At first, the reason I had to break up with my boyfriend is because I thought our sexual chemistry wasn't there. Our sex life wasn't bad; I just got bored so easily. This was odd for me because I am a very sexual person and I fantasize alot about all sorts of deviant scenes. So, when we were having sex, it just never was as hot or as exciting as the fantasies I was masturbating to. I thought this was just a problem that happened in this relationship. But, then I started dating other guys and I was having vanilla sex with them too... and I got bored! Eventually, I realized that I just wasn't into normal, vanilla sex. I like having a good fuck every now and then, but if I'm going to plan for a good night of sex, I would mostly want to play out my fantasies that could lead to it rather than just sex all by its lonesome. Now, I have a few different fetishes that I've never done before... for example, I'm really into tickling and bondage. I also enjoy role-play and having random sex acts either in public or someplace where we might get caught. How do I let my other partners know how I feel about my fantasies and when is a good time to tell them?
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Zennsketch / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Personally, you should be looking into alternative lifestyle scenes that allow you to meet people who are already into the same interests you are in that respect. Search for localized scenes or groups, or join websites where you can search for localized people who are into similar things (collarme . com for example)
One thing you MUST understand. Are you wanting to just spice up your bedroom activities or are they truly fetishes? Do some research via google searches for bdsm and bondage and fetishes , look on wiki's ...the best thing you can do for yourself is get educated about it so you can make informed decisions...should you meet someone who has similar interests. There is a real risk in meeting and dating potential alternative lifestyle partners...so please don't just let anyone tie you up etc. Be smart!
AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Play into the other person's fantasies first. Then address your own.
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