It is taboo. It is messy. It is even sometimes intense. It is anal sex. For most women, it is completely out of the question to allow this particular penetration. However, it is also on the top of most every man’s list of favorites. So how do you allow him to do his favorite thing and you enjoy it as well? Well, here are a few tips to make it a little easier.
Relax and meditate
The first thing you must remember is that when you are mentally tense, your muscles will automatically be tense. This will cause increased discomfort. Also, if you have a partner who is well-endowed, this make cause for intimidation, which will in turn cause even more anxiety. So, regardless of the size of your partner’s penis, try to relax. He can actually help with this. Full body massages are not only great for relaxing, but also for arousal. You should also try to think of relaxing things as well as practice some deep breathing. For example, if you have some nervousness about your partner’s size, you shouldn’t think about that. Think of things that will turn you on and leave you wanting more from your lover.
Get your mind off everything
Start out slow. Rushing into this particular penetration can cause not only discomfort, but also physically hurt you. Also, this may be the perfect time to pull out the toys. Sometimes, this can even help alleviate the initial discomfort. Stimulating your clit and vagina while your partner is penetrating you, can also intensify your orgasm. Ask your partner to join in this play, as this may ensure he is more cautious with thrusting.
Lube Lube Lube!
You should also make sure that you have plenty of lubrication available. Unlikely your vagina, you anus does not usually produce enough lubrication for intercourse. This said, you should try to have a glycerin and paraben free, water-based lubricant on hand. Also, don’t be afraid to use it. Astroglide is the most commonly used anal lubricant as it has a numbing agent as well. However, you should be aware that it does have a nasty habit of staining sheets.
Practice having anal sex
Finally, the old saying, “Practice makes perfect,” definitely applies. This will get easier, the more you do it, as with anything. You should always try to relax as you would with vaginal sex. Force your muscles to loose tension, by whatever means necessary. Also, deep breathing and meditation techniques can help to alleviate some the initial pain of penetration. Don’t be afraid to use your vibrator liberally or to stimulate any other pleasure zone. Keep in mind that women have far more pleasure sensors than men. So, use this opportunity to enhance your pleasure by utilizing these areas. This can often help to distract from any discomfort or pressure that you may feel. This, just like any other sexual activity that you and your partner engage in, should be fun and not painful. Don’t be intimdated to say “When”, if you cannot handle the discomfort.
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