I just started dating this girl whose really into playing rough. I had only been with one other chick before her and when we had sex, it was mostly about being intimate and affectionate. She really liked that I was tender with her. This new girl is very, very different. Some of the things she's told me to do is hold her down, gag her mouth, slap her face and ass, etc. She's even discussed with me doing role-play fantasies where I sneak into her house and violate her against her will. I am not used to doing something like this. I really don't want to get in trouble and accidentally hurt her or do something to her that she won't like. I feel like this is too touchy for me to even try. How can I be rough with my girl without actually hurting her?
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Dan / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I was in the same boat when I was younger. I felt bad slapping a girl that wanted to be slapped. But the bottom line is: She asked me to. Why not give a girl what she desires?
Look, I'm not saying you have to slap her in the face, but there are ways to get it spicy without being too violent. At the same time, she seems to want you to be violent, but some guys just don't have the stomach for it...totally understandable.
To be honest, this girl doesn't seem too bad. As you get more experienced, you'll come across women who seem "out of the norm," though when it comes to sex, you'll find that there really is no norm.
Next time you're having sex, put your hands around her neck. Don't choke her, but put a little pressure on her throat. When you're doin' it doggystyle, pull her hair; slap her ass. But don't give her one of those friendly "good game" taps on the ass...slap it. Leave a handrpint. Again, this girl wants you to do this...you're not doing anything wrong here. When you kiss, bite her a little bit. During foreplay and sex: Pinch her, grab her. These are little things that can ease you into the masochistic side of sex.
When you change positions during sex, don't just calmly place her on her stomach after she was on her back: Throw her around, act like the man. Don't ask her what she wants you to do, tell her what she has to do. And talk dirty to her: You say she wants to do role-play, so while you're having sex tell her what kind of role-plays you'd want to do. Tell her what you want to do to her.
Just make sure you keep it under control. Sometimes you can get in the mode and go overboard. She may tell you that's what she wants, but at the drop of a dime the girl can flip the switch on you. Be careful. There is a fine line between sex and violence. You may teeter on that line, but until you really trust this girl, make sure you don't jump across it.
Oneman123 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Dude she is nympho freak and if you two break up give me her number lol. But anyway just do what she wants you to do but not as rough cuz I'm the same way but I love to be kinky with the ladies and most of them wanted me to do the same and I did but not to the point where it would hurt them and you should do the same but if you feel as if you might hurt her then know how far your controllin and dominatin her and stick to that or if she says no really that fuckin hurts then stop
Brent / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Give it to her in the butt man just cum all in that ass. And then give me her email so I can make her cum you little girl.
Bartmerr / Woman / Likes Men / Single
this girl sound just like my dream , send her to me.
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